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“Don’t take bad things into your head or heavy things into your hands,” people say. What is the meaning of this wish? According to one opinion, it is aimed at respecting healthy image life: free your head from and do not overload yourself with physical labor. According to another: bad thoughts entail serious offenses. But be that as it may, there is only one conclusion: you need to get rid of bad thoughts.
For example, the thought of robbing a bank may seem good to some, but bad to others. “That was a bad idea,” we say after our idea fails.
So, bad thoughts have bad consequences. “Life is scary, people are evil, no one needs me, everyone is making fun of me” - and now, having finally convinced himself of this, a person himself jumps from the roof of a high-rise building or takes revenge on his offender.
Of course, bad thoughts do not always lead to such a sad outcome. But in any case, they actively attack the consciousness and prevent you from concentrating, soberly assessing the situation, and finding opportunities to solve the problem. They exhaust, plunge into despair and despondency.
They say that thoughts are material. If this is true, then people who are not confident in themselves and constantly repeat: “Not with me,” “I won’t succeed,” “Let someone else do it - I can’t handle it,” are programming themselves for a life full of disappointments. .
Worrying thoughts are also bad. It is common for every person to worry about themselves, their health, and worry about their loved ones. But this works especially well for impressionable and sensitive people. The phobias that haunt them limit their actions, prevent them from making adequate decisions and enjoying life.
Does your child's phone not answer? What work if we are ready to take off and rush in search! The boss didn't say hello? We hastily go through possible mistakes in our heads. Is your husband going on an urgent business trip? Why would this happen all of a sudden, he’s never traveled before - he probably has a mistress. Life turns into a continuous expectation of pitfalls and troubles.
Bad thoughts bad because they are different. They sit in your head like a thorn, not letting you forget about yourself. According to psychologists, obsessive thoughts are the incessant replay of unwanted memories, doubts, ideas, desires, fears or actions in your head. The real problem in such obsessive thoughts is often exaggerated and distorted. A head filled with such thoughts leaves no room for positivity. The nervous system suffers, the person becomes irritable or tearful. , obsessive-compulsive disorder becomes a real prospect.
American Louise Hay came to the conclusion that many diseases are the result of bad thoughts. In her opinion, our well-being depends on how positively we think.
Having experienced psychological trauma in childhood and adolescence and coping with its consequences, she began counseling parishioners of a New York church. Subsequently, based on her experience, she compiled a Directory of psychological causes of physical ailments and suggested ways out of them.
Louise Hay believes that they helped her cope with cancer, which overtook her when she was 50 years old. “You Can Heal Yourself” is the title of her most famous book. We create our own future: bad thoughts provoke unpleasant situations. Blaming others for your grievances and failures is wrong. Anyone who thinks that he is because no one loves him will be lonely until he changes the course of his thoughts. A person who believes in the existence of love and loves will be surrounded by love.
You can achieve harmony in your life only after harmony is established in your soul. Louise Hay thinks so and gives some tips with which you can change your thoughts, get rid of fears, insecurities and worries and make your life joyful. First of all you need to:
You need to stand in front of the mirror, look yourself straight in the eye and say, addressing yourself by name: “I love you and accept you as you are.” At first glance, it's simple. But most people will experience internal resistance at first. A lump in the throat, awkwardness, or even tears will prevent you from confessing your love for yourself.
However, one cannot but agree with the statement that one who does not love himself cannot sincerely love others. So the Bible says: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Having filled our soul with love, we simply will not leave room in it for bad thoughts.
Long-standing quarrels, unpleasant situations - we experience them again and again, mentally trying to prove that we are right, to justify ourselves to ourselves or someone else. They are in the past, but we reanimate them, revive them and do not let them go, wasting emotions and energy and complaining that we feel like a squeezed lemon, a gutted fish.
Let's transfer all our grievances to a piece of paper: make a list of everything that torments us. These will be the thoughts that we need to get rid of. Next, we’ll tear it into small pieces and throw it in the trash or burn it, and scatter the ashes, saying: “I’m freeing myself from my fears, from tension. I feel peace and harmony in my soul.”
This is what Louise Hay advises to do whenever bad thoughts enter your head.
Communication with some people comes down to listening to their grievances and complaints about relatives, colleagues, children, husbands, neighbors. Sometimes it seems that they like to be offended and make claims to others. It is not surprising that they complain of high blood pressure, headaches, and poor sleep.
And all they need is just to “dissolve” their grievances in forgiveness. Let's do this too: sit where no one will disturb us, relax, close our eyes and imagine ourselves sitting in a darkened theater hall. On the illuminated stage stands a person whom we dislike and whom we would like to forgive. Let's imagine him smiling, as if something good is happening to him. Let's save this image and let it disappear, and then imagine ourselves in its place - just as happy.
This exercise, which is designed to melt the ice blocks of resentment, should be performed at least once a day for a month. Louise Hay says living without grudges will become much easier.
If you control your thoughts, you will notice that most of them express uncertainty, disappointment: “I’m so tired of everything,” “I don’t have a chance,” “A bummer again,” “It’s hardly worth doing this,” “I’ll never I won’t like you,” “I’m always unlucky,” etc. With negative thoughts, we seem to be preparing ourselves for a negative result. And he doesn’t keep himself waiting. It couldn't be any other way. Where will the energy and strength come from if we were initially aimed at defeat?
Negative thoughts provoke us to look for reasons that would justify our inaction. They are compared to concentrated acid, corroding the heart and mind, destroying happiness. Positive ones - with a magic lift that lifts you to the stars. They suggest opportunities that allow you to move forward in your development.
Do we want positive changes? We drive negativity out of our heads, replacing it with positive attitudes: I can do it, I can do it.
In order not to get poisoned, we carefully select food products - we make sure that they are of high quality and fresh. However, we are not so meticulous about the information that enters our brain during the day. Here we are omnivores, and as a result our heads are filled with information garbage. Disasters, maniacs, accidents, defaults, terrorist attacks, murders - hysterical TV presenters are in a hurry to tell us this news. “Everyone is afraid!”
We begin to doubt our own safety and the safety of our family, and this, according to, is one of the basic needs of everyone. The psychological balance of a person living in chronic fear for himself and his loved ones is disrupted. And he is no longer able to think “about high things” - about self-realization, about satisfying cognitive and aesthetic needs. I wish I could live here.
You need to be just as picky not only with “spiritual food”, but also with people - energy vampires who have the habit of driving cockroaches from their heads to someone else’s. Anyone who does not know how to build a psychological defense should avoid long conversations with them so as not to become infected with their pessimism.
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Many people suffering from vegetative-vascular dystonia and not only are interested in the question: how to get rid of bad thoughts that form in the head? Any nervous disorder, one way or another, is associated with negative thinking, when there are no positive thoughts, and therefore no good mood. The good news is that we can eliminate negative thoughts by following certain guidelines, persistence and patience. As for VSD, during the next attack we ourselves escalate the situation and provoke the appearance of bad thoughts. If you know, you can resist them.
Before you learn how to get rid of negative thoughts, you need to understand where they come from or how they are born. Among esotericists it is believed that thoughts are not personal, that is, there is a certain collective information field and we take thematic thoughts from there. However, we should not forget about our own experience, since we try to predict a lot based on the available data. So, throughout a person’s life, or more precisely, his brain, collects information.
Reinforced by certain emotions, all this shapes our experience, both negative and positive. What happens most often? If in the past we received negative experience in a certain area, then in the future we are already programming ourselves for failure. A striking example is entrepreneurship. It often happens that a person fails and when he starts a new business, he has much less optimism and enthusiasm, since the brain perfectly remembers how it all ended the last time. Accordingly, the entrepreneur thinks negatively, and self-doubt appears.
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A person in this situation has to work with himself, acquire new beliefs, and, if possible, visit a psychologist in order to remove bad thoughts and blocks. Imagine life as a flow of pure energy. When you begin to experience stress, anxiety, uncertainty, guilt, worry and other negative thoughts, you throw stones (blocks) into the river that interfere with its progress. Accordingly, if we learn to let go of old memories and experiences and look at new situations with optimism, we will live a simpler, more interesting life and achieve greater success. Every person has grievances and until we get rid of them, we will worsen our lives every day. These may be bad memories from childhood or from adulthood. It is important to learn to forgive. Then you will not have bad thoughts. The same applies to other negative feelings (fear, anger, envy, and so on).
Man has a great gift - the ability to concentrate. Success in many matters depends on our concentration. This is a kind of law of attraction - the more we think about bad things, the more we attract negative thoughts. It is our attention that fuels certain thoughts. As soon as we stop focusing on the negative, it will lose its power and go nowhere. Surely you or someone you know has had vivid examples when fear for something instantly turned into reality. For example, you are walking along thin ice and you are afraid to take every step, suddenly, it begins to crack and crack. Another person, who doesn't even know it, passes by and nothing happens around him. This is a real life example. Our thinking programs us and even influences the world around us.
Accordingly, the most basic thing we need to work on is concentration. If we pay more attention to positivity, gratitude, joy, love, beauty and pleasant excitement, the brighter our lives will become. When a person passing by smiles, he will also smile at you. A smile can work wonders if you find the strength to show real sincerity and enjoy what is happening. You shouldn’t “put on” a smile, as is customary in American society. Try to be truly sincere and friendly. Do a little experiment during the day, be kind to others and your colleagues. After a while you will notice amazing feedback. It's like investing "money" that is later returned with interest.
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Many people believe that they think consciously, but this is a big misconception. To some extent this is, of course, true, but only at the moment when we make great efforts and concentrate on a specific topic. And even in this case, our brain, as a receiver, catches thoughts that fit our patterns, perceptions and experiences. A person cannot say what he will think about in a minute or an hour. Most often it is a stream of endless information, and often garbage, that runs through our brain. To create a pleasant associative chain, compare thoughts with clouds. They can be light, cloudy, heavy, fast or slow. Sometimes it is very difficult to concentrate and think about only one topic. If concentration is poorly developed, we jump from topic to topic. All this suggests that thoughts live their own lives and, accordingly, we can distance ourselves from them. This is the main secret of success.
If thoughts live on their own, then we can let them pass by and selectively pay attention only to those that we like. If a person learns to work with the information field, his life will become much simpler, more interesting and brighter. Try to step back for a minute and realize that your thoughts are not you and observe them.
How do we catch thoughts? Our emotions and feelings play a big role. Imagine a person or his brain as a big magnet. If we feel angry or resentful at a given moment in time, we only attract negative thoughts. If a person feels gratitude and joy, thoughts are of a completely different quality. Therefore, some religious teachings teach you to let go of all your feelings in order to distance yourself from thinking altogether. Enjoying emptiness and vacuum brings an incredible surge of strength and relaxation. The main thing to understand is that only your concentration attracts certain thoughts. By themselves they have a neutral emotional connotation. And only our beliefs, views on life, make them good or bad for us.
Every person at some point in time has an exciting topic that causes inconvenience. The point is that our consciousness avoids unpleasant topics, but the subconscious mind remembers everything, knows everything and is forced to deal with unfinished problems. This creates a certain dissonance. The mind generates (catches) negative thoughts at the subconscious level, and we consciously try not to notice them. As a result, “we run like a squirrel in a wheel.” We have already given an example of entrepreneurship above. This is a vivid example of when the subconscious tells us at the level of thoughts: “You won’t succeed. Remember, last time there was a failure. This time it will be the same." We are at the level of consciousness and say in response: “It happened last time. If you don't try, nothing will ever work out. Do you remember there was a situation when it happened 2 or 10 times?” Thus, an internal dialogue occurs and the strongest wins.
As a result, we can note at least two ways to remove bad thoughts from your head.
Other ways to distract yourself from negativity
On religious forums of different faiths you can find heated discussions of the same topic - “How to get rid of obsessive states and bad thoughts? "
The methods of getting rid of the evil spirit's suggestions are the same - reading prayers, strong faith and fasting. Believers try to diligently carry out the orders of their religious mentors, the advice helps many, but some still fail to overcome their mental disorder.
Here are excerpts from the sites:
While reading the prayer, all sorts of thoughts constantly pop into my head, I try to concentrate, but my vigilance lasts no more than 15 seconds, what do you advise me to do?
For a long time now I have been tormented by the feeling as if the devil in my head was constantly whispering all sorts of swear words! For example, as soon as I think about Allah, vile words are immediately added to it! I perform namaz and dhikrs every day! And still this whisper does not give peace, and my head hurts very badly!
The Muslim preacher's response was:
When bad thoughts come into your head during prayer, say: “A’uzu billahi minash-shaitanir-rajim,” and then spit over your left shoulder and continue the prayer. “It is reported that one day ‘Uthman bin Abul-‘As said: “O Messenger of Allah, truly the Shaitan is preventing me from praying and reading the Qur’an, confusing me.” In response, the Messenger of Allah said: “This is a shaitan named Hinzab, and if you feel his presence, turn to Allah with a prayer for protection from him and spit to the left three times.” He did so, and Allah removed this shaitan from him.” (This hadith is reported by Muslim).
Now let's see what science says about this. So, for example, medicine gives the following definition to obsessive thoughts (obsessions) - this is the incessant repetition of unwanted, often painful thoughts, ideas and desires that cannot be gotten rid of by force of will. There is always a feeling of their violence. The patient understands that obsessive thoughts originate within himself (unlike a patient with schizophrenia, who is sure that someone is controlling his thoughts). The content of obsessive thoughts is unacceptable or meaningless to the patient, so he tries to fight them. Typically, obsessive thoughts concern the following interrelated areas of life: 1) morality and religion; 2) aggression; 3) pollution, infection; 4) health and illness; 5) accuracy, striving for symmetry. These obsessions occur with pronounced fear and anxious concerns.
Blasphemous thoughts are obsessive, cynical, offensive ideas about certain individuals, religious figures, and other people whom the patient actually respects. For example, during a church service, a deeply religious person has an irresistible desire to shout insults at God or the angels. Or during a meeting of freshmen with the rector of the institute, one student has an irresistible desire to shout that the rector is a fool. It should be emphasized, however, that blasphemous thoughts, like all contrasting obsessions, are never realized.
One of the manifestations of obsessive states may be sudden hatred of loved ones - husband, parents, etc.
So, what to do if you discover symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder.
First you need to understand that any fears and bad obsessive thoughts arise due to prolonged increased internal tension, split personality, hidden aggressiveness and irritability, and for some due to... youth, or rather hormones.
The “radar” of dangers – fears – is constantly turned on for some “sensitives” - people who are hypersensitive or young with increased hormonal activity. Some people may be born with increased anxiety and sensitivity to fear.
As soon as this “radar” of dangers turns on, a person begins to draw all sorts of crazy pictures in his imagination and gets scared of them. He stresses himself out so much that he has a panic attack.
I repeat, at such a moment completely reckless thoughts begin to come to a person’s mind, there is a fear of going crazy, some frightening fantasies and fears that something terrible is about to happen. So, this is just an irrational fear that defies logic. During a panic attack, the movement of thoughts is almost not subject to common sense and logic, so it is almost impossible to streamline the flow of delusional ideas at this moment. Their goal is to create even more fear.
If panic occurs for a hormonal reason, then even in a completely safe situation, when nothing threatens, hormones will imagine crazy situations in order to provoke a nervous shock. And fear, if it appears, automatically evokes new fears and various unpleasant pictures in the mind.
The dark part of our psyche, the subconscious, constantly forms in the imagination all sorts of, even the most immoral, pictures. And this scares us. And in vain, you shouldn’t be afraid of this. Because the reason for these demonic thoughts is not your sinful essence, but the following banal factors (which can be corrected and radically help your psyche overcome bad thoughts and fears, inshallah):
Incorrect, unbalanced diet, coffee and strong tea and even sweets;
A diseased liver can weaken the psyche due to a large amount of “anxiety hormones”;
- “psychotrauma” from childhood, which you don’t even remember, can cause obsessive states;
Intracranial pressure;
Prolonged internal tension, taking everything to heart, constant self-examination and dissatisfaction with oneself, dissatisfaction, suppressed desires, nervous exhaustion.
Now, after you have understood the cause of your worries, throw away the false feeling of guilt, and remember, the bad thoughts that arise in your mind do not concern you or your spirituality. This is just a product of an unhealthy body and this problem can be dealt with!
Now about negative thoughts during prayer. Remember, where thought goes, energy goes. Wherever there is energy, there is blood. Do not feed your demonic thoughts, feeding them with your energy, do not try to drive out thoughts, do not fight them, but, on the contrary, root them for a long time in your subconscious. Obsessive thoughts have one feature: the more you resist them, the more forcefully they attack.
Psychology describes the “white monkey” phenomenon, which proves the difficulty of dealing with external influences within the mind. The essence of the phenomenon is this: when one person says to another: “Don’t think about the white monkey,” then that person begins to think about the white monkey. Actively combating obsessive thoughts also leads to this result. The more you tell yourself that you can handle it, the less you can handle it.
Whatever crazy thoughts and emotions arise, allow them to come and go like waves in the ocean. Whatever you think about, let the thought appear and disappear, without any tension.
Don't cling to a thought, don't strengthen it, and don't indulge it. Don't hold on to a thought or try to strengthen it.
Neither follow thoughts nor invite them.
Be like the ocean, looking at its waves, or the sky, contemplating the floating clouds.
You will soon see that thoughts are like the wind, they come and go. The secret is not to "think" about thoughts, but to allow them to flow through your mind while it is free from their influence. Don't get into an argument with obsessive thoughts. If they appear, try to switch your attention, do not conduct internal dialogues with them!
Next, if possible, start running 200-300 meters in the morning. A morning jog will relieve excess stress from your psyche. Jogging can be replaced by any gymnastics, any sport. Physical education just helps relieve irritation and melancholy.
To be continued Inshallah
Gulnaz Miyassarova
There is a widespread belief: thoughts materialize sooner or later. Sometimes events happen in life that make us think negatively. It’s completely normal if they visit a person occasionally, but what to do if you can’t get rid of your worries? Let's talk about this in today's article.
Even people who do not have serious problems occasionally talk about the negative version of events. Sometimes it happens that life proceeds quietly and measuredly, but bad thoughts increasingly visit the head and interfere with sleep. What is the reason?
We make decisions all the time. Some we don’t think about for long: “What to eat for lunch?”, “What suit to wear”? Others make you think: “Should I change jobs”, “Is my partner suitable for marriage”? Even if a person is subconsciously ready to give a positive answer, he thinks about the likely consequences. Thoughts do not give rest.
Everyone has made mistakes at least once. The right path is to take note of the consequences of a rash decision, draw conclusions and move on. Impressionable people overthink themselves, live in the past, working out possible outcome options in their heads. Burying themselves in guilt. This has a detrimental effect on the nervous system. If there are manipulators around such a person, they will constantly take advantage of the individual’s weakness.
Even strong-willed people can run out of strength. Events happen after which you give up. Consciousness is filled with a feeling of helplessness before the future. A person becomes hostage to bad thoughts.
obsessive bad thoughts in the head are one of the symptoms of OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), for treatment you should consult a psychologistMany people ignore negative thoughts, relying on strength of character. It happens that rare thoughts about bad things develop into serious depression and panic states. Such thoughts have a destructive effect on the psyche and health.
It is easy to recognize a person who is captivated by bad thoughts. He:
If you find yourself with at least 3 signs at the same time, you should think about your emotional health.
To overcome negative thoughts, you need to eliminate their cause. Think soberly about what causes negativity, think about possible options for eliminating the problem. There are several effective “prevention measures”.
There are ways of thinking that exacerbate negativity.
If you notice that you think too much about bad things, use the advice in our article. Take care of your emotional health!
It often happens that everything around you seems to be fine, but you are worried about something, you are completely out of mood, and bad thoughts are spinning in your head. It’s much worse when you can’t deal with them, they keep coming back. Some people even lose sleep during such periods, become exhausted and suffer from a loss of strength. What to do if bad thoughts come into your head? How to get rid of them? Are they dangerous?
How to characterize bad thoughts - what are they??
If you sort out your own thoughts, you can see that most of them are our fears. We are afraid of seeming stupid, afraid of not having time to do something, afraid of making a mistake, afraid for our children - this list would go on endlessly if it were not interrupted. Thoughts about fear come into my head. Even bad thoughts can be associated with feelings of guilt. If you didn't pay enough attention to your children, couldn't achieve something, couldn't prevent trouble, you feel guilty. This is a very bad feeling, it prevents you from moving forward and depresses you.
Bad thoughts can haunt a person suffering from depression. This is a mental illness caused by a lack of serotonin in the brain (most often). Frequent stressful situations, loss of loved ones, lack of communication and satisfaction also lead to depression. What are the dangers of negative thinking? Do you need to get rid of them?
Bad thoughts creep into your head - is it dangerous??
Someone will say, it’s okay that I think bad things, does it really matter? What we constantly think about plays a very important role. It is known that a thought always materializes; it is the starting point of everything that happens in the future. Our entire reality is just the result of our thought process. If you want to live a happy life, first of all, you need to change your way of thinking - remove everything negative from your head, and fill your mind with only positive impulses.
Bad thoughts will not only lead to troubles in the future, but can also deprive a person of his health. The constant feeling of fear, anxiety, and despondency experienced by people is fertile ground for the development of depression. A negative way of thinking sometimes contributes to malfunctions of the body at the cellular level, causing cancer. That's why you should try to drive bad thoughts away. It's not easy, but it's possible.
Find your fears
To cleanse yourself of bad thoughts, you need to recognize them, clearly understand what exactly underlies them. Without finding the cause of bad thoughts, you will not be able to eradicate them. How to do it? Psychologists often use this recommendation - you need to write down your worries, the thoughts that are constantly spinning in your head, on paper. If you cannot formulate them, write everything that comes to mind – words, phrases. Write 50 points of what is bothering you. Search long and hard until you complete the entire list.
Now re-read it - a lot will become clearer, it will become clear to you what exactly you are afraid of or why you are worried, what you feel guilty about, etc. Next, your work or task is to write several options for solving the problem opposite each point. Do this, and from now on start doing what you wrote. Hide the leaf for 10 days. When you return to reading it, you will find that most of the points no longer matter and do not cause mental discomfort.
Bad thoughts come into your head - what to do??
The list will certainly contain entries that cannot be resolved by any action. They will be associated with your self-image, this also includes feelings of guilt and a lack of self-esteem and self-love. What to do? How can I get these thoughts out of my head?
1. Remember everything you did wrong, did not do, or acted badly towards your loved ones. Right now, say these words: “I completely and unconditionally forgive myself, accept myself as I am. I respect and love myself." Realize that you will not change the past, when you made mistakes, you had the appropriate circumstances, less experience, less knowledge. Now, if you are able to feel guilt and regret, then you are a different person. Now you would not repeat those mistakes, so you deserve forgiveness.
2. Explore your fears - what are they talking about? Are you afraid of not having enough money or are you afraid to complete the assigned work? You probably have a lack of self-confidence. To get rid of these negative thoughts, write a plan on how you can achieve what you want, what needs to be changed, who to call, who to meet? If you plan to solve problems, they will definitely be solved. Planning will help you gain confidence and not dwell on problems, but look for solutions.
Look for a source of inspiration
Communication with people will help you get rid of negative thoughts. positive people. Protect yourself from gloomy people who complain about life, look for inspiring, refreshing communication. Try to replace bad thoughts with the opposite ones, for example, instead of “I’m so tired of everything,” tell yourself “I’m cheerful and full of energy.” By doing this, you will gradually push bad thoughts out of your head.
Remember, bad thoughts are deeply rooted in the subconscious, don't let them do that. Identify negativity and then eradicate it. It will take a little time, but working hard on yourself will help change your attitude, and once this happens, your life itself will change for the better.