How to meet people on the Internet: first message You can meet a girl on the Internet
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Meeting a girl on the Internet is like walking on the edge of a knife. Perhaps even meeting people on the street is easier than on the Internet (despite the general misconception to the contrary).
A step to the left, a step to the right - execution. Or rather, rejection, ignoring, excuses and other forms of unwanted female behavior. 🙂
Sometimes even a phrase written incorrectly or at the wrong time can become the toggle switch that switches a girl’s thoughts from “what an interesting young man” to “he’s kind of strange/obsessive.”
In this article I will tell you how to meet a girl on the Internet, what to write to her and how to act in order to get consent to a meeting instead of refusing.
First of all, you must remember that... →
Dating a girl online can present you with several unexpected obstacles. Moreover, both VKontakte and .
The reason for this is that many guys are afraid to meet people on the street, and do it within the World Wide Web. There are a lot of people who want to meet even just a pretty girl. Therefore you must:
Well, we’ll start by analyzing the first phrases and what they should be.
The law of first impression always applies. How you show yourself from the very beginning is how your seduction will be. Only experienced seducers know how to correct all their mistakes. And if a guy who has no experience in seduction makes mistakes at the very beginning, then the best option in his case is to switch to another girl, and not try to get this one out on a date.
True, this law works more in a negative direction, i.e. It's a little easier to create a bad impression than a good one. And a good impression must be maintained further so as not to spoil anything. But that’s not about that now.
Before I tell you how to properly meet a girl via the Internet, let’s look right now at the main mistakes that guys make when writing their first sentences.
More precisely, there is only one mistake - inability to write confidently.
Each of their phrases reveals either uncertainty about their own success or some kind of doubt.
An example of such phrases:
Surely you have now noticed that all these phrases have similarities with each other - they show the guy’s insecurity.
In most cases, this uncertainty is not so easy to notice (after all, I gave too vivid examples). And in order to learn to notice the difference between uncertain and confident phrases, you need to gain as much experience as possible.
In order for your acquaintance with a girl on the Internet to be successful, you need to try to choose the right strategy from the very beginning.
It is advisable to compose the first phrase after analyzing her profile and photographs. This is the same contextual approach, only within the Internet, when you start communicating as naturally as possible.
True, unlike street dating, on the Internet you can use templates more boldly. Only they should be of your own “production” and not be too formulaic. For example: " Hello. You are a very good person with a rich inner world. And it will be good for both of us if we become friends. 😉».
I gave this pattern only as an example, so that you understand the differences between a natural pattern and an unnatural one. Therefore, it is not a fact that it will work for you.
But still I I advise you to compose unique first phrases every time, and use templates only in extreme cases, when there is absolutely nothing to grab onto in the profile and photo album.
Let's try to come up with a phrase using a specific example. Right now I’m logging into the social network VKontakte to search for people and opening the page of the first girl I come across. In the “activities” section it is written: “ You will definitely like my work 😉" What can I write to her in this case?
A simple example: " Hello! What kind of interesting job do you have? Intrigued 😉" If you think actively, you can come up with something more complicated.
The same girl in the “favorite music” section says: “Nautilus Pompilius, Zemfira.” In this case, several options are possible:
You can come up with anything you want. Everything will depend on your experience and desire to develop the skill of generating working first phrases.
Other girl. From the photographs it is clear that he spends half his life in the gym and has an athletic figure. At the same time, she has many recipes for various desserts on her wall.
« Probably, many girls would like to put themselves in your place, allowing themselves to eat sweets and, at the same time, have a figure like yours. Actually, you should have already been met by envious people in a dark alley 😉 Although...».
The phrase will only work if you yourself correspond to its level. Therefore, do not consider this as a panacea, but simply remember the approximate algorithm for generating these phrases.
The next equally important component in meeting a girl via the Internet is further correspondence.
But we are not talking about developing a conversation (to develop it, it is enough to simply ask the right questions and move from one topic to another), but about those rules of seduction that are important to follow.
Rule #1. Don't ask "hard" questions.
“Heavy” means those that evoke everything except the desire to respond. These include trivial questions, as well as those that will cause her to write too many letters.
Your task is to create the impression of a positive guy, who communicates unobtrusively and does not force her to think.
On the contrary, try to joke and tease the girl more than talk about the eternal and serious.
Rule #2. Fewer questions.
Of course, it’s impossible to do without questions at all, since they are an important part of speech that allows you to start and maintain a conversation.
But reducing their number to a minimum is quite possible.
Why am I giving you this advice?
The fact is that when a guy asks few questions, he shows the girl that he does not need to continue communication. Thus, he will show a lack of neediness and cause a state of momentary uncertainty in the girl, which forces her to continue this communication, despite the absence of a question.
You will be surprised, but many of the girls will be happy to continue the communication themselves, sending either replies or just emoticons (if there is nothing to say).
Rule #3. It took a little longer to answer than she did.
If she answers you within 2 minutes, then you should answer no earlier than the same time. Better yet, later. If you immediately respond to her messages and wait for her to write something to you, then you will immediately show your neediness. This will cause her to instantly lose interest in you.
For example, you are talking to a girl, the conversation is going well. But suddenly you suddenly become cold, answering with “bitch” remarks in the style of “I see” and showing reluctance to continue the conversation.
In such situations, the girl begins to think what she could have done to lose your interest. And the more she thinks about it, the better.
You can read something else about communication on the Internet in the article “”.
The purpose of your profile is to make the girl have a strong desire to write to you first. And since at the very beginning of the article I promised to give you a couple of tips, I’m keeping my promise. 😉
In order for a girl to want to write to you, you must show attractive masculine qualities in your profile. You need to write interestingly (this is important!), indirectly or directly demonstrating these qualities. Perhaps even make a joke somewhere.
« I do rope jumping and love extreme sports. I can’t stand sitting at home – I always try to go somewhere. Some people see this as a disadvantage, but for me there is nothing better than adventure and relaxation in nature. Lots of goals and plans for life. Goal #1 is to become…. Goal number 2 is to marry a worthy girl. What does "worthy" mean? She must be beautiful both externally and internally. And...answer my 5 questions, which serve as a signal to me that I can continue to communicate with her. 😉».
Well, such parameters as being in demand among the opposite sex and people in general can be “finished off” with appropriate photographs.
There is one wonderful instrument on the mamba - the “carousel”. This carousel is located on the main page in the upper right corner. What do you need it for? In order to create several options for the questionnaire and choose the best option.
You put one version of the questionnaire and buy 1 round of the carousel. Then you put the second questionnaire and do the same. And how exactly to test: just wait until someone writes or write some simple phrases and wait for an answer - it’s up to you.
However, you can do without this “carousel” by sending the same phrase to a large number of girls and calculating which profile was answered most often.
This is where my advice on how to meet girls on the Internet ends.
Finally, remember: if you do not see signs of reciprocal interest from the girl (she initiates communication, asks you various questions, and so on), then you should not make more than one attempt to exchange numbers. If you proposed a meeting, and she refused, explaining that you “can communicate here too,” then figure out your mistakes and make sure that this interest appears. But under no circumstances beg for her number.
We have told you the basic points of filling out the questionnaire. Another 5 minutes to equip yourself with knowledge, and it won’t be difficult for you to get acquainted correctly on the Internet. Now we will take a closer look at what to write to a girl and what is better not to write.
1. Normal, sexually mature girls no longer fall for standard pick-up phrases.
Only a young girl or some TP would be interested in a template message in the style of “call me urgently 01, a fire started in my heart when I saw your ava, baby.” Write like this only if you really have a house fire and the heart-shaped pillows are already burning.
2. By following the path of a pickup truck, you inevitably leave an imprint on your worldview and attitude towards girls in general.
If you succeed in this, then it becomes a habit to treat girls as prey, meat. Yes, you can temporarily solve your current problems and satisfy your physical needs. But you risk one day feeling devastation and loneliness, which none of your sheepskins can do anything about. But all you need is a girl equal to you.
3. It is unpleasant for girls to realize that they were treated by a “professional”.
Having learned that her natural protection against wicked men was bypassed with the help of a universal “opener”, she will certainly add herself to the list of cold bitches of this world. And there are already plenty of them.
As we have already found out, the guy should write first. You don’t need to hope that you create a profile and a sea of cool girls will write to you. With those who wrote to me first, I never had anything other than friendship. Although friendship is also great. :)
Of course, you can simply write “Hello.” But she receives a lot of such letters. And even if she liked you outwardly, your shares are priced low. The first phrase to a girl on the Internet should be a little more meaningful.
With this approach, you will have fewer unanswered messages. And the girls you meet will be more interested in you, just as you are in them.
For example, if she is learning to roller skate at the All-Russian Exhibition Center in a ridiculous pose, then we can say that she is very
graceful, even when off balance. Or ask what bearings she uses (after Googling the options)
There is no need to look for little things in the background. It will sound insulting and stupid if you write about some vulgar-shaped stone in the background, pretending to be Petrosyan. After all, in the foreground - she is all so beautiful, with a perfect manicure, in a dress, rings and an interesting pose. You need to start from the detail directly related to it.
Use the clues they leave for you. If you see a mysterious title of her favorite book, look for a summary. You don't even have to go to the library! Surely you will have some thoughts about the book. Discuss them with the girl, not forgetting to admire the fact that a beautiful girl reads good literature.
It's the same with photographs. If you see something that she is clearly interested in, go to google.ru and look for information about it. This way, creating an interesting conversation is not difficult, and the girl understands that she can talk to you about anything. And this is already 60% success.
Yes, here you are taking a Russian language exam. And you are lucky in any case: either in the fact that you simply write correctly, or in the fact that you have a bunch of spell-checking services at your fingertips. For example, this one.
This puts an end to your profile, and it immediately ends up on the black list. Girls receive whole bags of such spam. It’s also not a good idea to offer her to buy her old bed.
Offers to live together with you in Butovo (because you are scared to return home alone), chat on Skype (because you are scared to be home alone) or give birth to a child together (for the same reasons) put the girl in culture shock. Respect her personal space, and remember that any girl is actually a stronghold of inner purity. Her very essence does not allow her to go with you into all the troubles right from the doorstep.
Take some time before introducing her to the Cucanostrus galaxy and your seven invisible selves. Go down to: Universe, Milky Way, Solar System, Planet Earth. Perhaps later she will even find your inner world cute, but don’t make the dive too abrupt.
She is not interested in telling for the hundred thousandth time where she studies, works, or what she does on this site. During the communication process you will receive answers to these questions, but this is not suitable for the first message.
Here are the most normal dating sites, in my opinion:
Dating.ru– I started from this site. The main advantages are democratic nature and free registration of the questionnaire. For some reason, this is where I had the most successful acquaintances. There are a lot of fake profiles, but they can be easily identified by the blank information and just one photo.
Loveplanet.ru- the most popular site today. There are a lot of profiles, you can really find something interesting here if you dig around. But recently, unfortunately, he began to demand money for almost everything.
Mamba.ru– Good, high-quality resource, convenient mobile application. You can't go wrong if you choose this one.
Datingstyle.ru– dating for informals, mainly of a gothic orientation. Sparsely populated, but life is great. The main advantage, of course, is the audience - many interesting people. Although he is also a minus.
Love.mail.ru– judging by Rambler statistics, this is the most populous dating site. However, I did not stay there for long. It seemed to me a bit unclear, spammed with false questionnaires, but nevertheless worth attention.
After reading this article, you will learn how to meet a girl on the Internet on a dating site, get her phone number and arrange a meeting.
When talking about online dating, it is worth mentioning that it is often considered to be for losers. There is an opinion that there are only scary girls and insecure guys online who want to raise their self-esteem. This is a misconception, of course, there are characters with cockroaches in their heads, but there are plenty of them in real life. Nice, interesting people are found very often on dating sites. The Internet has long and deeply penetrated our lives. Therefore, many people sit there to take a break from the working day and get distracted.
The main goal of online dating is to arrange a meeting with a girl or get her phone number. I can recommend the sites mamba.ru, mylove.ru, tabor.ru, loveplanet.ru, and also badoo.com. You can try dating on Photostrana.
Your success with the opposite sex directly depends on how you present yourself. And this can only be done with the help of a questionnaire - original and memorable.
Before you start filling out your profile, carefully look at how other guys filled them out and don’t do as they do. There are two rules for filling out the form. It should be original and short. Your philosophical reflections, poems and odes are of no interest to anyone and girls will read them. But humor, banter and a little sarcasm will make the profile interesting. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself and describe your qualities in a bright and unusual way:
Avoid sentimentality. You should not write that you are looking for the one and only or that you are yearning for warmth and affection. This will turn girls off.
When choosing a photo for your avatar, you must be guided by the same principle as with the questionnaire. Look at the avatars of others and find your original, high-quality photo. In most cases, guys post photos taken with a phone camera against a car or landscape. All this is boring and does not attract attention.
One avatar is not enough; take a dozen more pictures that will show you from the best angles. If you are an athlete and have a good figure, show it off. Post a photo from your trip, show your hobby, or how you play sports. The girl should see that you are a versatile person, you have many hobbies and an interesting life. Of course, you should avoid photos where there are a lot of other people and you have to explain that you are in the second row from the left.
On a dating site you have to choose a girl only based on photographs. Unfortunately, in most cases they do not show real appearance. It is better if there are at least three photos. And you need to focus on the one where the girl looks the worst. Unfortunately, these are the photographs that are more truthful.
You shouldn't trust studio photographs; Photoshop can change a person beyond recognition. But if there are no photos on a girl’s profile, most likely she has something to hide and a completely unexpected character will come to meet you, and perhaps this is a stupid prank and you will simply waste your time.
Often girls post old photographs, ten, and sometimes fifteen years ago. Pay attention to clothes and surroundings, they will immediately tell you when the photo was taken.
During the correspondence, ask the girl to send a couple of photos. Ask when they were made and don't forget to comment on them. By sending photos, the girl expects a return compliment.
A questionnaire will help determine the girl’s external characteristics. Look at your height and weight parameters. If the difference between the numbers is 120 or more, then the girl is slim, and if the difference is 110 or less, then she is plump. It's a matter of taste here.
If you want to look like a preoccupied bore, a boring guy or a mediocre guy in the eyes of a girl, then you can start dating as follows:
The most hackneyed option for starting a conversation with a girl is an emoticon. There are also options with opuses or long discussions about the meaning of life, which also immediately repels the girl.
All of the above methods of dating are doomed to failure. Therefore, you will have to come up with something truly original and positive. Girls are much more likely to respond to messages like: “I’m giving away happiness for free, don’t you want it?”, “Smile!”, “Let’s play.” There are a lot of options, but it’s important to come up with something new every time. If you start a conversation with a girl with the same phrase every time, she will quickly get tired of it all.
To avoid getting into trouble when a girl returns your greeting and you don’t know what to say next, study her profile. Look at what she is interested in, what she reads, what films she likes. It will be great if your interests overlap, but if not, you can always show her interest in her hobby and ask her to tell you more about it.
The conversation should be positive. Don't talk about your problems and affairs. To the question “How are you feeling?”, “How are you?”, “How was your day?”, answer “Super!”, “Best of all!”, “Excellent!”. People who are positive always attract attention and want to communicate with them.
In online communication you need to be able to walk a fine line. Your conversation should not drag on, otherwise the moment may come when you turn into a virtual friend and it is unlikely that you will meet again. Therefore, try to find out her phone number or arrange a meeting as quickly as possible, because this is your goal.
To transform virtual communication into real communication, you can write to her something like “a free, cheerful young man invites you to spend the evening together.” If a girl is reluctant, answers evasively, or doesn’t give her her phone number, it’s better to end the correspondence. Perhaps she doesn't need real communication at all. And if a girl gave you her phone number, don’t hesitate and call her.
Now you have agreed to meet. You need to somehow communicate your, so to speak, signs so that the girl recognizes you in the crowd. Of course, you can describe in detail what you will be wearing, what kind of hair you have. This is all banal and boring, and the girl will not be very comfortable looking at all the guys she meets. Be original here too, say that you will have a stuffed elephant in your hands or a sign with the inscription “Sun!” Your meeting will certainly start on a positive note and you will immediately find a topic for conversation. In the meantime, you wait for the girl, you will cheer up passers-by and have fun yourself.
And finally, I’ll add that the purpose of dating on the Internet is real communication. But it happens that it is very interesting and fun to communicate with a girl online. There are many cases when people corresponded via the Internet for months, and sometimes even years, while in different cities. And then they met and became close people. Of course, it’s great if you immediately managed to translate the communication into real life, but if the correspondence is addictive and you like it, you shouldn’t give it up.
Finally, a couple of live examples, dialogues from the Internet.
Hello! I really liked the photos, I would love to see you in real life
Svetlana
Hello! Everything is possible. Can I find out more about you?
What would you like to know?
Svetlana
Well, for starters: age/height/what kind of meetings do you dream about.....,
It’s not often you meet a person who observes punctuation in sentences :)
Svetlana
This is not an answer))
To be blunt and honest, I’m interested in pleasant, stress-free communication, ideally, constant meetings for a cupcake out of sympathy.
Svetlana
I love sex)), but a man must first evoke feelings, agree
And I’ve already studied my tastes well, that’s why I ask questions))
I'm 27, height 180. And the feelings should be mutual, agree)
Svetlana
I think I agree (with the words)
Write your number, we'll call you!
Svetlana
Forget my number, let's write to you on Viber
OK. My *******
Mark
Hello)
Margarita
Hello
Mark
How are you? What are you doing?)
Margarita
Everything is fine, I’m doing cross stitch)) and you?
Mark
are you kidding?))
Margarita
Well, why is it like this right away?
Mark
And what will happen in the end?)
Margarita
I haven't figured it out yet
Mark
And I drink tea and listen to New Zealand radio))
Margarita
Good too!)
Mark
Like I’ve already weaned myself?)
Margarita
No, in progress
And you?
Mark
well, I meant for today) I’m a long time ago, already too old for this)
Margarita
Come on, it's never too late
Mark
I already have a degree, so that's enough))
Margarita
Even so, well then maybe
Mark
I can start you
*teach
something bad ☺
Margarita
It’s always like this... I can do bad things too
Mark
Are you a bad girl?))
Margarita
In some places
Anything can be bad
Mark
I'm afraid to imagine in what))
Margarita
And it is not necessary)
Mark
Well, if you teach me how to cross, then I suspect it will be useful))
Margarita
Interesting...do you want one?
Mark
It would be interesting to try
Margarita
The first time a guy tells me that he wants to cross stitch)) unexpectedly
Mark
As a child, I sat in my grandmother’s chair, put on a scarf and imitated her as if I was knitting))
Mark
It all depends on what kind of teacher I will have))
I like to try something new))
Margarita
Yeah, that means the inclinations appeared in childhood)
Mark
something like that))
Margarita
I've never taught embroidery before
Mark
Everything happens for the first time))
Margarita
Agree
Mark
When do we start?)
Margarita
I haven't decided yet
Mark
Well, let's first get to know each other and talk, and then decide))
Margarita
And how will we get to know each other?
Mark
You can call and chat over the phone first)
And if we enjoy talking on the phone so much, then...
Margarita
Okay, just later) I'll study
Mark
The next day
Mark
Hello)
Margarita
Hello)
Mark
How are you doing?)
Margarita
The third grade is not a defect)
Mark
The first time I've heard)
Margarita
I mean it's not bad)
Mark
What did you get from your embroidery?)
Margarita
nothing yet, the threads are out
Mark
That's bad
Margarita
this can be fixed
Mark
Shall we call you?
Margarita
well you can
Mark
Well write the number
Margarita
Now you know how to meet a girl on the Internet and which sites are best to use for this. Now is the time to apply the learned theory with examples in practice. Good luck!