Protected girl a. Simple and effective self-defense techniques for girls. What to do when captured

The question of whether it is worth intervening in a conflict on the street, of course, does not arise for the first time, because there are many options for the development of events - from beating the intercessor to detaining him. At the same time, it is impossible for a decent person to pass by indifferently simply because this means that he will leave the girl in trouble.

“One winter I was returning home from university. Residential area, 10 pm (I'm an evening student), not a soul on the street. The road passes through garages where local outcasts often gather. They were celebrating some kind of holiday and, when they saw me, they invited me to “play for three.” I refused. I don’t even want to tell you what I learned about myself that evening. I have never felt so disgusting and mentally painful. They took my fur coat and bag and demanded that I give my keys and the address of the apartment.

Scared to death, I gave everything in the world and ran home headlong.

In one dress, at minus ten,” said Muscovite Olga about a case when there was no one nearby who could come to the rescue.

Another story is about what they could have done, but didn’t come. “They tried to rape me at a summer resort. We had a little too much with friends and after the party we decided to go for a walk along the embankment. Because of the excess alcohol in my blood, I had a fight with my friends and said that I would get to the hotel on my own... I returned to my room in beatings and torn underwear, screaming like crazy, calling for help, but no one helped. All the people passing by pretended not to see what was happening. The only thing that saved me was that I suddenly got my period from a nervous breakdown,” said Tamara, a resident of St. Petersburg.

Muscovite Maria was luckier. “I encountered violence through my own fault - I need to think about where to go and with whom. For the first date, the young man invited me to take a walk around the Troparevo residential area - I live nearby, so I agreed without a shadow of a doubt. The fact that it was a weekday and 11 pm did not give me pause. But in vain. We met and decided to take a taxi to our destination. Already in the car, the first signs appeared that the evening urgently needed to end. He behaved very aggressively, shouted at me, joked strangely. As I got out of the car, the taxi driver asked if everything was okay and if I needed to wait. I thanked him and declined. I thought that I would solve everything myself. We walked about 300 meters, the jokes became even harsher, I realized that the evening would end in rape. Looking like a fool, I began to apologize and say that my mother forgot her keys and I urgently needed to go home. In response, he demanded to see the SMS. But there was no SMS, I’m not very good at lying, so the plan failed. Realizing that I was lying, he snatched my computer and phone from me and with the words “Oh, you bitch, you deceived me,” and began to hit me in the face and hands. I was wildly scared, it was painful and very scary.

Fortunately, the taxi driver saw everything that was happening in the rearview mirror, quickly backed up and literally pushed me into his car.

A new acquaintance spent 20 minutes convincing the taxi driver to let me out of the taxi. At first he said that I was his girlfriend and we were solving problems, but he, the taxi driver, was just interfering. Then he shouted that I had schizophrenia and the taxi driver didn’t understand what he was signing up for. Then came threats with reference to government agencies. The taxi driver, who saw me and this guy for the first time in his life, did not believe a single word he said, but simply silently listened to all the nasty things addressed to me and took me home. If it weren't for that man, I don't know what would have happened. Once a month I meet him for dinner and thank him for saving my life once.”

The taxi driver in this story had an important advantage: in addition to his decency, he also had the opportunity to protect the girl without getting into a fight. However, those who walk the streets do not have this - just as, most often, they do not have traumatic weapons, gas canisters and other items that help resist intruders. What to do when you have nothing but the desire to help?

“If you are a physically strong man, confident in yourself, then you can intervene,” says an operative from the capital’s criminal investigation department. “But you need to soberly assess your strengths and the strengths of your opponent. And also take into account that your potential opponent may have a knife or “injury” in his pocket. There are many known cases where gopniks killed even well-trained athletes in a drunken fight.”

The most important thing in this situation is to protect the girls. “First you can make a remark, see how they react to it,” continues Sergei. - During this time, the girls can leave. And when they leave, you don’t have to develop the conflict further, but simply run away yourself.

The street is not a ring, you won’t be given an audience award, but you can easily get a sharpening in the liver.

Well, if you feel that you can’t handle it, call the police and don’t leave the scene before they arrive. After her arrival, it is important to clearly, calmly and without emotion explain what happened. This will determine whether the police can intervene effectively or not.”

The police are obliged to come and intervene - and this is another reason to call them. Even if it turns out that you got involved as a third wheel in a conflict between people you’ve known for a long time, even if it turns out that the girl doesn’t need help, the police will consider it a false call, but they will still be obliged to sort it out.

“This is a common situation for us - when eyewitnesses call and say that a man is harassing a girl,” says another active metropolitan police officer. “And even more often they call when they see that they are trying to put a girl in a car, she resists, screams or makes a fuss. Moreover, the vast majority of these calls turn out to be false, because then it turns out that the girl was drunk, her boyfriend, brother or friend put her in the car, and she herself sobers up and says that everything is fine. Of course, we are obliged to respond to these challenges - and we do, we carry out mandatory checks. If a police officer himself witnesses such an incident, he always intervenes. Well, if he is not in shape, then it all depends on what kind of person - recently my colleague in Bitsevsky Park, being off duty, saw that a girl was being dragged somewhere, and, being a strong guy, fought her off.”

According to Arina Lipkina, consulting psychologist at the Conception scientific center, if a man sees violence being committed on the street, the first thing he really needs to do is call the police. “In cases where violence is committed against a child, it is better to try to pull the attacker away from behind and tie his hands with clothes. But if this is an attack on an adult, the attacker may have a weapon (of any kind) that may not be noticed, which is dangerous for everyone - both the victim and the man who comes to the rescue.

To reduce risks, you can try to distract the attacker, but while staying at a safe distance from him.

For example, using water (pour water over it, if available), turn on the sound of a siren on your phone (application “Sound of a Police Siren”),” Lipkina told a Gazeta.Ru correspondent.

If the potential rapist is drunk, you should be especially careful. “A drunk person can be very aggressive and strong. You need to attract as many people as possible so as not to be alone against a crowd of drunks. Call the police and demonstratively loudly call out the address and signs of the harassing men. You can also use the sound of a police siren,” explains Arina Lipkina.

Women need to intervene in a situation with great caution.

“A woman who has not taken self-defense courses and does not have the appropriate skills should not interfere. And even if she decides to do this, she must evaluate her capabilities (how many attackers, do they have weapons). First, in any case, you need to call the police. You can also use the Gunshot Sounds app, especially if you are at a safe distance and holding something in your hand - attackers may think you have a gun. In all cases, if the attacker is alone and is not capable of sudden movements (drunk, reclining), you can use a tear gas canister, which must be accurately aimed at the face. If this is not possible, you should not try, as you may accidentally hit yourself in the face. The number of the police and ambulance should always be written down in the phone,” warns the psychologist.

How to behave if you are with a companion

Let's talk about such an important, burning and painful issue as self-defense with a companion or with a child.

What to do, if you are not alone?

How to defend yourself when there is someone next to you who is unable to defend himself? Because he is not as healthy and strong as you, he does not have special skills.

Hollywood cinema, as well as oriental action films, impose on us a myth when Mr. and Mrs. Smith stand face to face, placing their Colt guns on each other’s shoulders, and begin to make mischief, spinning in a circle.

In general, if your companion is not Mrs. Smith, then most likely she does not have such data. And you will have to protect her.

Your companion does not have special self-defense skills

In general, most likely your companion does not have special self-defense skills. Moreover, having seen how you dashingly knock out your opponents’ teeth, how you break their chests, with a low throw you send them to the nearest tree instead New Year's toys hang and do other outrages, most likely the girl will feel sick, since her delicate psyche is not adapted to such lawlessness and violence.

Therefore, the techniques should be fast, short, unnoticeable, it is advisable that the young lady does not see them, and the entire clash should end as quickly as possible. So, step by step...

One of the interviewees for the training said interesting story about how he once found himself with his wife against two attackers. When he started to fight with them, his wife held him and said “Dear, what are you doing, etc.”. Both husband and wife got it. Well, this is still the reaction that women have. Those. a woman may prevent you from protecting her and yourself, try to grab your hands. As a result, not only will you be beaten, but she will also get it.

Everything must end quickly, AS FAST AS POSSIBLE!

A fight does not always begin with a blow in your direction, with a blow, a glance or an insulting word in your direction. Aggression can come at a girl, not only verbal, but also physical. It won't always be gopniks. Often – drunk drivers who suddenly swerved around a corner, etc. You won't have time to say: "Careful darling, move away from the edge of the road" and something else there, like the dear one will simply be swept away, crushed soft-boiled.

That's why the very first What you must learn is to take your companion away from the line of threat, from the line of attack. This is done with a very easy, beautiful maneuver. If you were holding the young lady by her right hand with your left hand, then you simply turn the body around its axis and transfer the girl to the other side of your body, under your right hand. In this case, your body acts as the axis of rotation. That's all. A person is easily and quickly transferred to the other side.

Your body acts not only as an axis of rotation, but also as a buffer that protects the young lady from criminal attempts.

The scoundrel is trying to grab and grope your young lady

Second point The scoundrel(s) may be simultaneously trying to grab your hands so that you don’t do anything in response. First of all, you save yourself, secondly - the woman, because if you try to save a woman and they hit you on the back of the head, then no one will help either you or the woman. The grips are knocked down with short, hard blows to the painful points; do not forget to strike the knee, shin and groin with your foot.

How and what we do. Since we hold the girl, say, with her left hand by her right hand, then we will work, that is, save her only with our right hand and right foot.

Otherwise:

• if you try to use left hand, You let the girl go, and they can drag her somewhere into the bushes or she will run away in hysterics, in panic,
• if you try to kick with your left leg without releasing the girl from your left hand, then her body will again act as an axis of rotation, and she will be pulled in a completely unnecessary direction.

It's easier to try it and make sure it's true than to explain it in words.

Safe distance

When you are together with a young lady, the question of maintaining a safe distance. Anything that invades your personal zone and shows aggression must be fought back.

Therefore, with your free hand you apply a whip to the eyes, a whip to the most vulnerable, painful point under the nose - this is a very painful effect, it can give an electric shock to a dead drunk and even supposedly feeling nothing. You hit them on the genitals, you kick them on the shin, on the knee. You knock off the grips from yourself, then from the girl, and move away as quickly as possible in the direction from which you came or in the direction where there are people.

Along the way, your woman should call mobile phone, call the police.

When the attackers are trying to get closer to you, it's time to go into frenzied berserker mode - grin your face and start yelling as loud as possible: "meat, blood, meat, blood". At the same time, perform tearing, scratching movements with your hands, as if you were tearing apart meat. Any normal, sane person will be horrified and frightened, and will think that Frankenstein has come to life again. On the way back from the scene of the battle, it would not be superfluous for the young lady to take out her keys on the go in order to enter the entrance as quickly as possible.

Your body is a buffer, an axis of rotation. Working with your free hand. Let's not get into a fight - maximum two hits for each attacker. In the face and genitals, or with a kick in the shin, in the knee and we leave, we leave the line of attack.

Having seen two or three guys who looked at you and the girl, joked and moved towards you, prepare a means of self-defense in advance.

You definitely need to be prepared.

You are a man and you must take care in advance, prepare in advance for possible aggression towards you and, there, towards the girl. Therefore you must be prepared, Must have self-defense skills, at least basic ones. You should definitely carry with you, if not a knife, then at least some means of self-defense - javaru or a bunch of keys. You should always be prepared for the fact that you will have to protect both yourself and your companion.

If you are just a teenager, then if you are beaten, you simply will not go to school for two weeks. And if you are the face of a company, if you have your own family, a beloved woman, children, then the fact that you will lose your ability to work is you're risking everything. That is, you are endangering not only your life and your health, but also endangering your loved ones, their well-being and future.

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Spring..evening...embankment...starry sky...couples kissing on benches...and you, hugging your beloved girl (well, maybe not your beloved). Everything is fine..romance.Your walk is smooth. is coming to an end, you are heading home. You can already see the girl’s entrance... and then a voice from behind: “Hey, dear, will there be any small change!?” You turn around and see three people with a “go-stop” look who are approaching you clearly not with the intention of asking where their friend Vasya lives. Well, friend, in such a situation I can only sympathize with you, most likely you and your girlfriend will break up, but no, not with each other, but with your valuable things.

It all starts, of course, tritely: “Do you have any change?” or “Can you find a cigarette?”, and then how will you behave. If you say I don’t smoke, well, like an athlete, and you say it confidently, then there are two options, either an assault begins, or the guys really just wanted to smoke or shoot small things. In the second case they will leave, in the first case you got caught. No, if you were alone, there is no doubt, one (preferably the main one) would be hit in the butt and quickly get out, or even better, just get out without blows and quickly run away. But you’re with a girl, can you imagine what they’ll do to her if you start a fight and can’t put them all down? So don’t imagine yourself as a super hero and get into a fight. Now I'll tell you why. According to the "concepts" gop-stop never touch a guy and a girl, hence the conclusion that either strays (from another city) or complete scumbags have accosted you. It won't be difficult for both the first and second to kill you both. So if they ask for your phone and everything else, give it up without a twinge of conscience. If a girl is smart, she will understand that nothing is worth her health, much less her life. They will take it and calmly go home.

This is my opinion, and not only mine, all sane people will do this. So think about it.

But the article is basically about that how to protect your girlfriend. No, well, if you are a professional boxer or karateka, then I think it won’t be difficult for you to break three stoned dead guys, but! There is always this stupid BUT. They have weapons, 99% of them have a knife, do you need it!? In general, the choice is yours. I suggest the following:

1. If you approach, or approach with the obvious intention of robbing, try to send the girl somewhere, preferably for help. Tell her to run there to the kiosk, or to her neighbor Masha. The main thing is that she remains safe. It will be easier if you are alone.

2. It was not possible to send the girl to a safe place. This is already sad. But still... If they start to press you, answer confidently, don’t be afraid, just don’t be insolent to them! Under no circumstances. If they see that you are not afraid of them, they will think three times already, why do they need extra resistance and drawing attention to themselves?

3. If you feel that you are being pressured by the “bazaar”, hit! The main thing is to strike first. Just hit the most important thing! Strike sharply and unexpectedly, put all your anger into the blow! It is advisable to strike in the middle of a phrase, very unexpectedly! You need to hit him in the nose, there will be a sea of ​​blood, if you hit him, it will hurt incredibly. Hit and run! If with a girl, then you should talk to her about such possible situations, and as soon as you hit her, she should run for help! The two who stood with him will clearly be shocked by your actions. Give the girl a chance to escape, and then beat those two. Hit him in the groin, stick your fingers in his eyes. Etc. By the way, you can also give the first blow to the groin.

4. Start a fight only if you are sure that you can, if not knock out the first one, then hurt him like hell.

5. It’s better to give up everything valuable, sooner or later they will be imprisoned or killed. Why would you become their killer or, even worse, die from them?

I hope you act like a man and not like a super hero. Good luck!

Almost all pathological relationships begin with approximately this question (except for those that begin with the birth or conception of one participant in another unhealthy relationship). They often end with one’s enclosures growing to the size of elephants, while the other feels like he has suffered great damage, including preventing the formation of new close relationships.

I’ll try to roughly formulate why this happens. Our psychological problems can be roughly explained as the consequences of encountering too difficult experiences that the psyche could not process. In particular, this happens when a child faces problems that are beyond his age. The experience of such an experience forms, firstly, a great fear of a repeated encounter with such an experience, secondly, a certain distorted picture of the world that explains what happened, and thirdly, a body of psychological defenses that reproduce the unsuccessful experience of coping with a painful experience. That is, trauma separates a person from the world, he begins to live in a subreality that allows him, on the one hand, to never directly encounter these feelings, on the other hand, to spin around them all the time like a heifer on a string.

The active desire of someone else in this situation to help - that is, to protect them from triggers, challenge painful thoughts, not allow them to worry, doubt themselves, suffer from pain, allow them to do something unpleasant or uncomfortable for themselves out of pity - in general , the desire to adapt as much as possible to the injury leads to the fact that there are already two people running around the injury. And the unhealthy picture of the world gets an amazing boost, because when someone else believes in your monster under the bed, you finally understand that the monster is real. As a result, the desire to help turns into worsening persecution.

What can still be done for a persecuted loved one:

It is advisable to seek outside professional help and assist in the process itself. If there is no opportunity or desire to look for a psychologist, then you can, for example, look for high-quality literature on the desired topic.

Recognize that your loved one is a strong and mature person who can cope with his problem. You are with him not to save him, but to love him, and not because he will be lost without you, but because you like him. There are not very many people who are truly capable of disappearing from their psychological problems, and those who exist need the help of professionals, not volunteers.

Separate your emotions from his emotions. It's hard when close person suffers, but we all suffer sometimes, this is an important part of life and experience, you cannot take someone else’s suffering for yourself, but you can force someone else to repress and suppress it. All people have the right to emotions, suffering and problems, those close to us who help the most are those who remain strong, calm and able to continue to act in their own interests when someone nearby is suffering, but at the same time do not devalue or pretend that nothing not happening. Who knows how to stay close, but within their own boundaries.

Maintain boundaries and don’t let your loved one’s poor condition affect you too much. Obviously, the state of loved ones always affects us, but if our whole life revolves around it (and this is not just a small child or a seriously ill person), then something is wrong in the relationship.

Express your sympathy and desire that everything is fine with your loved one, but do not allow him to break contact with reality and do not interfere with collisions with it. That is, if a person is torn by one thought, you should not convince him that this thought is wrong or will never come true; the solution to internal problems never lies in the outside world. You have to face your fears, and it’s better when this happens in a warm and supportive environment.

Do not make concessions, do not allow a person to behave worse towards you when he is in a bad state than when he is in a good state, do not give him more. The psyche instantly adapts to the secondary benefit.

You are walking with a girl along the evening embankment, counting the stars, enjoying each other’s company - romance. And now you are accompanying your beloved home, the entrance is already on the horizon, when suddenly you hear a voice from behind: “Hey, guy, can you give me some change?” or “Can you find a cigarette?”.

According to the concept of “gop-stop”, a guy and a girl (especially a husband and wife) are not touched, which means that you were stopped either by strays or specific scumbags. In this case talking is unlikely to end the matter.

Just give the bandits what they wanted

Of course you want to know how to protect a girl, but There's no point in pretending to be a superhero. If you get in touch with three tough guys who don't look friendly at all, it's best to just hand over your phone if they ask. Believe me, it is better to part with your mobile phone than with your health or, even worse, with your life. And the girl will understand everything, because her man is not a superhero to easily scatter a crowd of attackers. Once you give them your material assets, with a 99% probability they will let you go your way. This way you can protect the girl and yourself. You will not lose either honor or dignity, because at that moment you were thinking about how to protect the woman you love.

Send the girl to safety

So you see: everything goes to the point that a fight will start soon. Try to send the girl to a safe place so that she can calmly call the police or ask passers-by for help, although the second, unfortunately, does not often help - people simply pass by, are afraid or are simply too lazy to get involved in other people’s affairs. Before the girl is as far as possible from the place of the future fight, you need to stop the villains so that they do not try to chase her.

Be prepared for the worst

Surely someone has a knife in their pocket, or maybe someone is clutching the handle of a bat in their hand, so you may not be able to cope even if you are a professional boxer. If it didn’t work out to send the girl to a safe place, it’s much worse, but there is always a way out. While the conversation is still going on, answer confidently, so that the aggressors will think once again whether it’s worth fighting with you, with such a confident. And under no circumstances be insolent, otherwise you will not be able to avoid being hit. And whoever hits first, as we know, is right.

Strike first

If you are openly being pressured by the “bazaar”, it is better to strike first so that your opponents do not expect it. During the conversation, you probably already realized which of them the main one - beat him, unexpectedly, preferably in the nose with a fist or foot in the groin. The ideal time to strike is in the middle of a phrase. And then I immediately tear it up. It’s better to agree with the girl in advance so that she immediately kicks as soon as you hit - this way she will have time to run far enough before the aggressors realize what happened.

Beat the rest

You hit first, knocking out or at least causing great pain to the most important one, causing him to temporarily lose the ability to think, and now hit the rest without thinking about anything - stick your fingers in the eyes, hit them in the groin with all your might, kick them in the stomach. The main thing is that the girl is safe. But if you see that you can’t handle it, run as fast as you can. You can run away yourself after the first blow, but just make sure that the gopniks chase after you.

That's all, actually. You know how to protect the woman you love from men on the street. We hope you never have to use this information. Good luck in your