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The situation looks hopeless: the man does not react in any way to your tearful requests, and scandals only aggravate the misunderstanding and turn your loved one against you. How to save a relationship that is stuck in a seemingly hopeless and impenetrable dead end?

Work or family?

Many scandals in the family are caused by the fact that a man spends most of his time at work. His dissatisfied wife constantly calls his office and asks when exactly he will be back, and if he can come earlier today? Such calls do not cheer up a man, distract him from work and put him in an awkward position in front of his colleagues, boss or subordinates (if he is the boss himself). His colleagues begin to consider him henpecked and secretly wonder how he tolerates this “tyrannical” wife.

Try the following. Call, but don't bother your husband with questions about when he will return home today. Just tell him that you love him very much, but you have to go... and hang up, citing urgent matters. You will see - in the evening he will rush home early without any reminders. Take a moment and calmly find out if he can take some of the work home or delegate any responsibilities to colleagues. Promise that you will stop pestering him with calls if he firmly promises to go out with you at least once a week, for example, to an interesting event.

If you need to contact your husband during the day, at least to hear his voice, ask him to call you from now on when it is convenient for him (for example, during his lunch break). Or send him a text or email that he can read (and respond to) when he's free.

Remember that men adore gentle and caring women, but they really don’t like controlling and intrusive women. Give your man some space and he will thank you in return.

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How to get a man to fulfill your requests?

Does your man look like a weak-willed seal, ignoring all your requests to do something around the house or take you to the Maldives? You constantly nag him, cry and even break dishes, but you still can’t get through him? Perhaps you are asking a man wrong. Here are some tips on how to get a man to do your bidding:

• Ask in a calm, confident tone. Don't babysit - he's not a baby. Put your thoughts into clear verbal form - the man is not clairvoyant, and will not be able to guess just from your languid gaze that you are dreaming of the necklaces that you saw in the window a month ago. Don't ask a man for anything if he's extremely busy or furious about yet another loss to the Russian football team.
• If you have just recently entered into a relationship, start asking small, slowly teaching the man to fulfill his requests. For example, first ask to take out the trash and nail the shelf, and then ask for a necklace (even if he is a billionaire).
• Give thanks and encouragement! Affectionate words, kisses, home-cooked meals based on Molokhovets recipes, luxurious sex - all this will inspire any man to do great things. But don't make the mistake that many women make - reward your man only after completing your request, not up to!
• Once you have asked for something, in no case don't do it yourself, even if you completely lose patience. Otherwise, the man will make the logical conclusion that you are doing an excellent job on your own, and you don’t need his help at all. Maybe you don't need it either. But that's not true, is it?
• If the trash has still not been taken out, the shelf has not been nailed down and the promised fur coat or diamond necklace has not been purchased, call a man for a frank conversation. Sad, but without pressure, say that this attitude hurts and upsets you, and it even begins to seem to you that he is indifferent to you.
• During a frank conversation try to clarify, why exactly he cannot fulfill your request. Perhaps there is an angry dog ​​guarding the garbage chute, or he does not yet earn enough to afford you such a gift as a necklace (read the article “How to teach a man to give gifts”). In this case, calmly and constructively think together about what can be done.
• If both your sad eyes and heart-to-heart conversations do not penetrate him, you will have to pay back in the same coin - ignore his requests and don't keep your promises. Since this is a strong remedy, use it only as a last resort and do not go too far! Your task is not to mock the man, but only to force him to taste "own medicine".

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Remember this delicate moment: a man can (and should) be rewarded with delicious food and amazing sex, but cannot be punished by their absence in any of his behavior. At best, he will become embittered, at worst he will begin to eat (and indulge in love) somewhere on the side with other women.

How to give an ultimatum correctly?

An ultimatum is perhaps a woman’s most formidable weapon in family life, because if the conditions of the ultimatum are not met, a break in the relationship or divorce follows. That is why ultimatums cannot be given over trifles. They are used only in extreme situations: your man has a mistress, drinks, has been unemployed for 2 years and is not going to look for one, does not want to officially marry you, although you have been living in a civil marriage for 10 years, and so on.

The essence of the ultimatum is simple: "You do this or that, or I'm leaving you". Clearly indicate the time frame when he must fulfill your conditions - 24 hours, 2 days, etc. If he does not fulfill the conditions of the ultimatum within the specified time frame, gather your will and leave. Anywhere - to your apartment, to your mother, to your friends (think about your escape routes in advance!). If he lives with you, ruthlessly throw his things out the door and change the locks.

Further, the situation can develop according to 2 scenarios: the man will either fulfill your conditions or leave completely. No matter how sad the second scenario may be, at least you will cut the Gordian knot and get rid of the traumatic situation that has driven you crazy for a long time. In the first case, the situation for you will also finally change for the better, in addition, the man will learn an invaluable lesson: you cannot joke with your love, otherwise he will lose you forever.

Please note - the strongest marriages are those in which the woman, although she sincerely loves the man, does not “cling” to him both emotionally and financially, and is ready (and can afford) to leave at any moment.

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You can find out more secrets of a happy family life in the long-awaited second season of the super show for women "My Beautiful 2"(second season) with the irresistible host Pavel Rakov, which will be shown on REN-TV in early 2017. Don't miss the premiere of brand new episodes of “My Beautiful...”! Do you want to see Pavel Rakov “live”? Come to the original trainings of the most famous women's trainer - and get invaluable lessons and really effective advice about family life!

About the transfer "My Beautiful..." and its presenter - Pavel Rakov

Pavel Rakov's trainings work! Whether you want it or not."

Polina Askeri: Pavel, your third book, “A Fool for a Million,” has been published. What is it about?

Pavel Rakov: The essence of this book is how to make him more successful in the process of communicating with a man and living with him. First of all, it is for married women, as well as for those who are going to meet a successful man. Thirty percent of the book is devoted to the topic of male motivation. According to statistics, if you ask men why they need a woman, most will avert their eyes and say that it is for intimacy. Smart men will add that for procreation. But if you give them time to think, they realize that it is for energy, for inspiration, for recognition. Here is a book about just this, about the most important thing:

How to inspire a man.

It was written based on the materials of the largest three-day webinar in my life, which attracted more than 35 thousand people.

Polina Askeri: Wow, we need to submit it to the Guinness Book of Records! I heard there was one unusual exercise where girls had to go out in the evening and ask a stranger for a gold ring as a gift. It seems to me that this is impossible! I'm sure the participants are simply exaggerating.

Pavel Rakov: A huge number of girls have done this. The chat simply froze with messages. We have everything recorded; it cannot be artificially faked. Next, those who were given two rings began to write, and all this in one evening, in one day. Then the girls who were given three rings wrote, there were fewer of them, but they were there. And there were even some who were given four. One participant wrote:

“I approached four unfamiliar men, and no one refused.”

Polina Askeri: What else do you talk about during trainings?

Pavel Rakov: About a man's choice. Often girls plan their vacation, going to the theater, or buying a dress more carefully than they plan their life and choice of a man. As a rule, they grab the first one that gave the impulse. Oh great, let's go to a restaurant, go on a date!

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Polina Askeri: Choosing a man to live with and going on dates are different things?

Pavel Rakov: Not really. First, you need to go on a lot of dates in order to choose a man properly. Unfortunately, some go on a small number of dates with a limited circle of men, so the choice is also limited.

Polina Askeri: If a girl meets a young man and goes on dates, isn’t that normal?

Pavel Rakov: In my opinion, yes, if she is in an intimate relationship, she can no longer date. As long as there is no intimate relationship, you can walk. Otherwise, the habit of a walking woman is formed, which is then very difficult to get rid of.

“Do you know how many women come to me and tell me to my face that they can’t stop, every week they
fall in love and want something new...

Polina Askeri: But this happens to men too, but they don’t fall in love and don’t see a problem with it? There is one permanent woman and a series of replacements...

Pavel Rakov: Until this man meets a woman who completely captivates him, this will continue to happen.

Polina Askeri: But there are men who never meet, and live like this all their lives.

Pavel Rakov: Eat. They just haven’t met those women who took Pavel Rakov’s training course (laughs).

There are some women's skills, when mastered, a woman becomes irresistible to men.

A woman has magical spells: her physics, her chemistry, her emotions, her spirituality, her brain! If all this is directed towards a man, to the point of intimacy with him, then that’s it, he’s in trouble. If not completely, then it won’t last long, not one hundred percent. It's like a magnet; it no longer attracts from a distance. If she's close, yes, he wants her, but as soon as she turns away, he looks the other way. Most men aim to “walk” as much as possible, no matter how rude it may sound.

Polina Askeri: Why, if a man, then “take a walk”, and if a woman, then immediately b...?

Pavel Rakov: Firstly, our brains are completely different, they are tailored to solve different problems. A man does not listen to long sentences, does not perceive complex phrases. Any woman will notice that a man will interrupt her when she complains to him, and give ready-made solutions, advise what she needs to do. Why? Because his brain is focused on solving problems.

A woman’s brain is different, it is more multifaceted, not on a plane,
but in volume, and sometimes you talk just to
to talk, relieve emotions, sympathize with each other.

And a man cannot sympathize without solving the problem. This is how he talks and gives an answer. It has one navigator function: where to go and from where. A woman does not have the function of a navigator, she has the function of wandering around, traveling around the map, feeling... When you start talking for a long time, men begin to freak out, rage and think that you are stupid because you cannot formulate a sentence. But, rather, on the contrary, we are idiots, we are limited, like a black and white version of a silent film, and you are like a 3D movie, or even 5D with special effects (smiles).

Polina Askeri: The female audience will, of course, like your words.

Pavel Rakov: Secondly, all men want to go out, only some just dream about it, some do it quietly, feeling guilty, some don’t, some don’t do it quietly, some... sometimes he becomes a gigolo, someone else becomes a scumbag... And some could take a walk, but they don’t take them, they are not liquid. But there are men who fall in love and can not cheat on their wife for quite a long time, simply because, frankly speaking, they do not “get it” for another beauty.

Hugging one and thinking about the other is difficult and threatens psychosis.

Polina Askeri: And how can you become the kind of woman for whom a man will turn a blind eye to others?

Pavel Rakov: One of the main ideas that I try to hammer into men and women is that men benefit from giving gifts to women. The fact that some women become so independent, or do not become so, but try to show their independence from men, is a kind of mistake and a big misconception of the civilized age.

To become a real woman, you need to learn
get everything from men.

It's not bad, it's not disgusting, it's not disgusting! On the contrary, the battery principle works here: the greater the minus, the greater the plus. The more “bulged” a woman has, the more “bulged” a man has.

Polina Askeri: The more a woman consumes, the more a man gets?

Pavel Rakov: It is when a man invests his strength, time, money, emotions, some work, his level of testosterone and dopamine increases. He gains vigor, inner tone, energy, fortitude, charisma rises... As a result, he begins to be respected in his social circle, and he becomes stronger in every sense.

Polina Askeri: Okay, we women understand this, but men more often take our requests for scams.

Pavel Rakov: If a woman does not know how to ask, then it looks like luring and divorce. For example, a good seller and a bad one. You want to buy everything from a good seller. A bad seller sells the product and violence occurs against the individual. Unfortunately, most women mentally rape men; naturally, they don’t like it. But you just need to approach the person from the other side through what you can give. And you can give inner emotions. Yes, there are pathological greedy people; they will never give anything, even if they meet a superwoman. Just like there are gigolos. Now on the Internet you can meet a huge number of people who, through dating sites and social networks, are trying to recruit a certain base of women, to select from it the most good-natured ones who can be scammed and cheated out of money. Unfortunately, this is a whole business, a whole industry.

Polina Askeri: Are women to blame themselves? Or do women not divorce men?

Pavel Rakov: It doesn’t matter who is to blame, who started it first. You know, when a woman cheated a man out of money - he bought her a car without love, and she said everything, goodbye, and drove off into the sunset in this car or with another man - this, of course, is disgusting. But if a man did it, he’s just a complete bastard. The difference is colossal. What is allowed to you is strictly prohibited to us. And vice versa, let's be honest. We don't need to forgive some things, but you need to forgive some other things. I am for a clear division of functions, like in business. I have been working as an entrepreneur for a long time and I know that if subordinates are given a vague task “Let’s do something good!”, it will not be completed. But if every employee clearly knows what needs to be done, then the business grows and develops, everything is fine. Also in the family. Many problems arise as roles begin to change.

Polina Askeri: You can find out a lot about your books and programs on the Internet, both good and bad, but there is very little personal information. I know you are a married man and have children.

Pavel Rakov: Yes, I have been married for twenty years, I have two children: my son is 10 years old, and my daughter is 3 years old. We didn’t have children right away; before we had them, we worked a lot and just enjoyed life. My son and I play football together on the playground with other children too. My daughter is very similar to me, even more than my son, not in appearance, but in character. I think she is the most beautiful girl in the world (smiles). In fact, I am not a model, I don’t want to be taken as an example, because we are all very different. I am a big workaholic, and in this sense, I would rather not envy my wife.

Polina Askeri: Does your wife attend your trainings?

Pavel Rakov: She went before, about 15 years ago, realized that all this was useful and interesting, and stopped. In fact, everyone is always interested in knowing about his wife. But since I work in an industry where there are a lot of women, I try to keep my husband away from them. Because I remember one time I invited her to a training and said from the stage that my wife was present in the hall. That's it, the training was disrupted! Everyone was spinning around and figuring out who she was. Then, when they found out, they began to discuss her: some were jealous, some admired, some said nasty things, different things. They came for one thing, but in fact, did something else. I failed in my task. People come to me to resolve their issues, and not to discuss my spouse. That's why I don't show it much. But those with whom I have been working for a long time naturally know her and come to visit us. We go on vacation together, as well as to various conferences, events, and trainings abroad.

Polina Askeri: Is your wife jealous of you?

Pavel Rakov: She's used to it. Even during our honeymoon, it so happened that there were a large number of women around her and me, and she realized that it would always be like this. And her friends treat me favorably. My wife knows me well, so she’s not particularly worried, of course. She is an interesting woman herself; when we first started dating, she was courted by very worthy men, even a Hollywood actor. We have a big apartment, we are rich, all that... (laughs).

Polina Askeri: As I understand it, you didn’t come to training right away; at first you were a businessman?

Pavel Rakov: Once I was passing through a festival in Odessa, combining business with the sun, sea and at the same time conducting business training. That time, a female coach was unable to come to the festival, and I was offered to hold the meeting in his place. They asked me: “You’ve been working with men for a long time, tell me what they want from women?” They didn’t really persuade me, I came, began to talk, and then the women began to ask me to give them some kind of training, and they began to line up to hand over money. So I had to plan and schedule the event (laughs). About 400 people came to the very first training, and there was an immediate rush. Despite the fact that there was a huge number of women's trainings, everyone wanted to know what successful men think about women. After all, now many women’s trainings are conducted by women themselves, or men who are not successful or, for example, small entrepreneurs. For them, it’s just a business, roughly speaking, to collect money from women.

Polina Askeri: And for you? What is your goal?

Pavel Rakov: As a father, I want my children to live surrounded by successful, happy people. Because you cannot be successful alone. I don't like it when people drink, smoke and do nasty things around me. Let's say, when we play football with little boys, if someone swears, we are awarded a penalty. The guys like it and they stopped arguing.

Polina Askeri: Besides trainings, do you have a business?

Pavel Rakov: We are currently building the “Alpine Meadows” eco-village. This is a development project that is developing quite seriously. In less than a year, so much has been done in an open field. We acquired quite a large amount of land, 60 hectares along Novorizhskoye Highway. You can get to Moscow City in an hour if you drive fast.

Polina Askeri: Are you planning to conduct trainings there?

Pavel Rakov: Not only there, I travel to different cities. If we are talking about training in nature, then of course, if there is a place for it, it’s great. But in fact, I don’t really like talking about myself. I'm not a model, not a star, I'm more of an entrepreneur who likes to keep quiet.

Polina Askeri: But you are a person who teaches other people success, you should consider yourself an example?

Pavel Rakov: I teach what I can do myself. I used to have big health problems, I solved them without any operations, because many things are related to psychosomatics. I went broke several times. This happened to many people, there is even a saying:

“You can’t go broke three times, you’re not a merchant.”

The only thing I can firmly say today is that there is no other person in Russia who has helped so many women get happily married, make a man happy with his presence and make him successful, except me. Because I teach a woman to serve a man and enjoy it. And the man begins to earn more and advance in society. This is where I am number one.

Polina Askeri: No competitors?

Pavel Rakov: More likely not competitors, but “children of Lieutenant Schmidt”, who call themselves my students and do something similar to my trainings. I don’t want to say anything bad about anyone, I judge from the reviews of my participants: “We were there, we came to you, we have the same result there, but yours is completely different.”

Polina Askeri: Many women say that the results last for some people a month, for others two months. Then they slip back into their old life.

Pavel Rakov: I also keep statistics, because many women who have completed our trainings communicate with our consultants, who supervise them and help them achieve results. Some people need to attend two events, others three, just as, roughly speaking, it is impossible to immediately turn a homeless person into an oligarch.

According to statistics, about 60 percent of women get results that do not go back, and marry for love.

Those who really want it get it. Just like in school, where there are bad students, three students, excellent students, because everyone has different data, different genes. During classes, some people don’t listen to what I say, pick their noses, write SMS messages, while others actually write down every word, go on stage, and do exercises. Everyone who wants will receive a guaranteed 100 percent result, they will have everything. Even those who don’t really want to, even they have stunning results. How many times have I heard:

“I don’t understand what’s happening. Everyone is just attacking me!”

Polina Askeri: But you don’t only conduct women’s trainings?

Pavel Rakov: I have three programs. “Women’s training” - once. “Where to get the strength for success” - two. For many, success is love, for some it is health, for others it is children, career, money... The third is Summer Camp. In principle, this is a course, it is advisable to take them all together. I don’t know what is more important to you. All girls are different. For some people, all they need to succeed is just a little bit, like at the dentist, just one small filling. And for some, all their teeth need to be changed, even before surgery.

Polina Askeri: I noticed that girls over 30 come to you more often.

Pavel Rakov: Until they turn 30, they still don’t think about life, everything is fine with them, why should they? The younger a person is, the less he thinks about the future. The more limited the brain, the shorter the vision. The more developed a person is as a chess player, he sees several steps ahead at once. And some people can’t even calculate the first move and go with the flow.

Polina Askeri: Do you give personal consultations?

Pavel Rakov: I believe that personal consultations are harmful. When they come to a psychologist, a doctor, a fortune teller, etc., they shift responsibility from themselves to him. They want people to answer for them what to do.

Polina Askeri: But if you don't know what to do?

Pavel Rakov: There are different areas of psychology, different approaches, but, in any case, the psychologist asks questions and directs the interlocutor’s train of thought. This means that it influences a person. And I give people skills, as a result of which they take responsibility and then, using these skills, try to understand their lives. That's the approach. During the training, I bring the situation to the point of grotesqueness, to stress, to catharsis, and at this peak of emotions I invest the participants in the correct behavior. And correct behavior is responsibility for your behavior, for the course of your thoughts, for the course of your emotions. Secondly, I share several simple technologies on how to behave in a given situation. Now I have completed my first training “The First Fools”, and I have information for as many as three “Fools”, for as many as three trainings, but I just don’t have time to conduct the “Second Fool”. Applications from different cities and a constant need for the first one! I’ve been working with “The First Fool” for many years, “The Second” will be this December.

Polina Askeri: Tell us about the Summer Camp. More than once I heard stories from different people who went through it that there are a lot of energy practices on it, and you can pick up negative energy from strangers.

Pavel Rakov: I’ll tell you more, every time we go out into the street and run into someone in a store, on a bus, in traffic jams. It makes no difference whether you are in training or not. In life, a person can relax on the subway, when his unconscious is not protected, at that moment someone nearby begins to talk, and part of the conversation is remembered. Immerse a person in hypnosis, and he will remember it and begin to play other people's roles. We live in an active information field. Turn on the TV, it also affects you on an unconscious level. We listen to music, music also influences. 97 percent of love songs are about suffering, about shifting responsibility to another, about torment.

Love equals addiction, horror!

Books by great writers are about the same thing. Movies are the same thing - a breeding ground for viruses. There is only three percent of useful literature, films, books and poems.

Polina Askeri: But energy exchange still occurs?

Pavel Rakov: I just teach not just defense, but I teach you to take any energy and transform it into what you need, direct it to a goal, to a task. I wrote a book about this, “Where to Get the Strength for Success.” When you say that you are afraid of negative energies, that they can affect you, they affect you. On the other hand, people can take “negative” energy and turn it into the energy of pleasure, love, or channel it into the energy of money. Any energy can be transformed.

Take a negative and transform it into a positive.

All successful people do this. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. For a successful person, there is no manipulation or negative energy in life. Any energy will be motivation for him. I teach you to overcome difficulties. Then a person’s “overcome” grows, and he eats problems for breakfast and rejoices. It's a blast! As if, when a woman refuses, it invigorates you, and does not humiliate you. There are people who, with one phrase, with one action, can change our lives. I would like to become such a useful person for many people, I try for them, it’s interesting to me.

Polina Askeri: Pavel, but where do you get so much knowledge about female psychology?

Pavel Rakov: Since childhood, at the age of 16, I created my own dating club. I studied at a school in Zelenograd, where there were about 800 of us boys, and we spent all day studying and, naturally, did not have time to get to know each other. I realized that I was in a very unfortunate place, I myself began to go out on the street to meet girls and share contacts with guys. Sometimes I took 50 phones a day, in a short time my base amounted to more than 3,500 girls. For me it was courage, because I had to somehow charm them, I very quickly found out where the girls went, constantly calculated the time, where there were more of them, when there were more of them, etc. After some time, I started teaching boys how to meet girls. Then I was lucky, I met a girl who was much older than me and taught me about life and told me many things. I became interested in female psychology, why we are so different, why there is such an abyss between us.

My wife taught me many tricks. I observed a lot from her, from successful women, and then told others. One has this technique, the second has a different one, the third has a third. I continue to do this now, like picking mushrooms and berries. Every woman has her own effective tricks and techniques. I want to make an ideal woman out of them. This is what I do at the training.

Polina Askeri: Have you met the ideal woman?

Pavel Rakov: My ideal woman is my wife! Despite the fact that we also had ups and downs, a period of lack of money, we easily survived most of the difficulties and problems.

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Pavel Rakov - host of the cult training show “Actually, I’m smart, but I live like a fool.”, “The fool wants to meet the two higher ones”

Pavel Rakov's trainings changed the lives of my sister and mother. My sister was not going well in her personal life, there were a lot of men, the problem was always the same, I spent a very long time convincing her that first of all she needed to change herself, that it was her behavior that attracted such men. But, since I am not an expert in this area and I couldn’t explain it to her clearly, I ordered Pavel Rakov’s book and said, if you want to build a good relationship with a man, read it. I don’t know what affected her, either my strict tone, or a great desire to find a worthy man, but she read it, then went to his training, and then called me in tears and said, God, what a real fool I was, how I didn’t see all this, in general, the result is that now she has a wonderful man who takes care of her, loves and respects her, they are planning to get married and have a child.

And my mother, she went through a difficult divorce after 20 years of marriage. Of course, this was a heavy blow for her, because it was not just a divorce, it was a divorce with all the “dirty laundry” brought out. Of course, I helped her morally as best I could, but I understood that she needed something big, she had to accept and realize it, and most importantly, draw conclusions and start living anew. Of course, she didn’t even want to hear about books, but the transformations that took place in my sister’s life influenced her and she decided to read and see what kind of stuff it was, Pavel Rakov says. And then she called me, and we discussed for a long time what and how, and she said:

I saw all the mistakes I made in my marriage. Now I understand why this happened. What a pity that I didn't know this earlier. How come you are so smart!)))))A

But I’m not smart, I just want harmony in my life, and if something doesn’t work out for me, I turn to experts in this field.

In general, why am I writing all this here, if things are not going well in your personal life, start thinking and acting, start with yourself first, because it is your way of thinking, your behavior, words and actions that prevent you from being happy in a relationship. There is a lot of information on this topic, start studying and applying it.

Olga Best

I would like to show you an interview with Pavel Rakov, very useful and informative, in my opinion.

PAVEL RAKOV: “HOW TO TEACH A MAN TO MAKE GIFTS?”

You expected that your husband would give you a diamond ring for the birth of your son, but he limited himself to a cheap cosmetic set. You've been saving money for a whole year to spend a well-deserved vacation in the Maldives (or at least in Turkey), and as a result you were forced to limit yourself to a house in the village. In a word, your man saves on you as much as he can, and is not at all going to give you expensive gifts.

But this situation can be radically changed.

Everyone's business: fighting attitudes and identifying the miser

So, why do men shower some women with gifts, but forget to congratulate others even on their birthday?

Mutual use rules. Many women explain this in a very mercantile way, believing that it is unprofitable for a man to give gifts. Vice versa! One of the human needs is to be useful. We all use each other. The bee is the flower, and the flower is the bee. And there are a lot of such examples in nature.

We all need each other for mutual use. And the more a man puts effort, time, and money into a woman, the more he receives in return.

For many years I tracked the stories of stingy men - they all ended badly. It is surprising that those men who gave more than 10% of their earnings to women seemed to be buying fortune for themselves.

The more money a man invests in gifts for women, the more he earns.

Laws of programming. But sometimes a woman herself does not want to receive gifts. And the reasons for such psychological attitudes should be sought in childhood.

Some parents instilled in their children: “I give a gift, and you do something for it.” When a girl becomes an adult, she does not want to receive gifts, because she will have to work for them.

Or the gift is accompanied by a reproach:“I gave it to you, but you are so ungrateful.” And it’s put off for her: it’s better not to receive anything, so as not to be “ungrateful” later.

It happens when simple ridicule discourages people from receiving gifts.“Look, you can’t live without this gift, like some kind of defective person.” And in childhood, everyone goes through a period of contradiction: “Is it me who can’t live without a gift? I don’t need your handouts.” And another negative program remains for life.

Sometimes there are several such settings, which can be very difficult to remove.

Pathological greedy people. They are found among all social classes. But most often, men are stingy with gifts due to a simple lack of money. Even if there is cash today, he is not sure that it will be there tomorrow. That is, the issue is not at all about women’s commercialism, but about men’s financial insolvency.

On the other hand, it is easy to be generous when there is nothing behind your soul. Such a gentleman can promise to throw the whole world at your feet. Don’t fall for this bait, most likely he’s just scamming you.

How to spot a hoarder:
sets financial goals, spins, but cannot reach a higher level of income;
often complains about others, blaming them for his financial failures, for being robbed, framed, etc.;
unsure of the future.

Test your gentleman for greed. While walking, tell him that you need to go to the store (but not the pharmacy, otherwise he will decide that you need hygiene products). A normal man will wait for you at the cash register to pay for your purchase, but a greedy man will demonstratively talk on the phone, ostensibly answering an urgent call.

Guess the wish: specific requests will help you get a gift

First, explain that you are a woman and love gifts. Giving a gift is a manifestation of a man's love, and receiving it is a willingness to accept it. A gift helps a woman get into a romantic mood. And for a man to completely improve his health: in moments of realization, his testosterone increases and his tone rises.

Tell him: “Your gifts are proof of love, because everyone can say “I love you,” but not everyone can prove their love.”

Know how to ask. Say the request several times to reinforce this skill. If you are generally uncomfortable with such questions, do the following. Go outside and ask any man you meet to give you, for example, a bouquet of flowers. It doesn’t matter whether he rushes to the flower stall or just twists it at his temple, it’s important that you were able to say it.

How to ask for gifts correctly:
use special words that are pleasing to male ears (please, you know better than anyone what I need, etc.);
ask only in a good mood with a happy smile on your lips. Otherwise, your request will turn into a demand or a cry of despair;
look straight into your eyes. It is very difficult for a person to refuse visual contact. It’s easy to do this over the phone, but difficult to do by looking into your eyes;
be sexy and feminine - these are the main arguments that work effectively;
come up with a reason. Many gifts are associated with holidays: if you explain that you have a holiday today or tomorrow, then the likelihood of receiving a gift will be higher.

Hint correctly. When you pass a shoe store, ask someone to come in for a minute and help you evaluate a pair of shoes you like. Next is a matter of technology. Your task is to try on shoes in such a feminine and erotic way that he wants to look at it forever. Spin around in front of him, then thank him and say that you, of course, like the shoes, but you don’t have the money to buy them now - and leave the store so as not to create awkward pauses. The new thing will be with you that same evening.

Be specific. The more clearly you formulate your request, the easier it is to implement it. To do this, you need to clearly know what you want and not rely on a man’s imagination. Especially wealthy, business people who value their time have no time to think about your needs.
Tell the man clearly what item you want and where it is sold.
If a man does not have free time to find the gift you want, tell him how much money you need to be happy, go to the store, return with the purchase and show it off with a happy look, not forgetting to thank your loved one.

Refuse... the gift in advance. Take it from your pretty little nose: a man is under no obligation to buy you anything. Ask him in such a mood that if he doesn’t give you what you want, then nothing bad will happen. Then he will not feel your dependence on gifts. And this will raise your rating in his eyes.
You cannot demand, humiliate yourself and beg. Exude calm and confidence. They said calmly - and then let him worry.
Secure the result. It also happens that a man sincerely agrees, but the next day he forgets about everything. To prevent this from happening, as soon as the cherished “yes” leaves his lips, gently take him by the arm and, looking into his eyes, lead him in the direction of the display case.

Bringing gifts: how to get a scarlet flower, not a thistle

Let's say the request is voiced and even heard by a man. But how to tune him to the right wavelength so that he buys you a bag from Chanel, and not from a hardware store? This also requires a whole science.

Start small. Never turn down small gifts. Moreover, encourage men to do them and show your admiration in every possible way. For example, ask him to buy a chocolate bar. Having received it, be sure to admire his gallantry and let him taste the first piece. Do not forget to look erotically into the eyes.

If the man is satisfied, then next time you can ask for something more valuable.

Remember all his gifts and keep evidence of them. Save the first movie ticket you visited together, or the petal from a bouquet of roses given during the winter cold. A photo taken during a trip together, or the same receipt from a restaurant can bring back pleasant memories and become the trigger that will lead to the purchase of new things.

Create difficulties. Remember how in the fairy tale about the scarlet flower, the merchant had to bring expensive gifts to his eldest daughters and a flower to his youngest. As a result, the difficulty of the latter’s location contributed to the intensity of his father’s feelings.

The more a man overcomes difficulties, the more reverent he treats a woman.
Ask him to get the “scarlet flower”. These can be inexpensive items made to order from materials brought from another corner of our planet.

Work on raising your status. The more expensive you look, the more worthy gifts men will give you. You'll have to throw out cheap jeans and sweaters from your wardrobe so that you don't get stuffed bunnies for your birthdays.

Gifts will correspond to your status only if your behavior matches your image.

A woman’s task is to learn how to spend a man’s money gracefully

Any successful man can buy anything, but a woman is called upon to help him do it beautifully and unusually. Her task is to spend money so that the man gets pleasure from it. And here you should remember about technical issues.

Benefit. Explain that the intended gift has a direct or indirect benefit. For example, a mink coat that you dream of getting for your birthday costs half as much on summer days, when a celebration is expected, as on severe frosts, when it will be worn.

Serving his values ​​may not be the easiest way to ask for gifts, but it promotes spiritual unity. So, say that buying a suburban plot would be a good investment. By building a house on it, you can not only lead a healthy lifestyle, but also partially rent it out, which will allow you to recoup the costs.

A man will always share your views if you are willing to serve his goals.

Ask with reserve. For example, explain that in order to always have a delicious dinner on the table when your loved one arrives, you need a slow cooker. Perhaps during the conversation he will suggest that you limit yourself to a food processor, but this will clearly be more than the whisk he purchased for whipping egg whites.

Accept credit cards. Remember a little psychological trick: it’s easier for a man to part with a credit card than with cash. Therefore, do not exclude this form of payment.

Exchange fund: gratitude and compliments are accepted as a gift

Every rule implies an exception. Regarding gifts, the following applies: no gifts purchased with your own money can be given to men. You don’t want to become his mother or, worse, turn him into a gigolo? The maximum you can do for him is to give him a song, a dance, a romantic adventure. Handmade items are allowed.

Let's compliment each other. Learn to give compliments. It happens that after receiving exquisite compliments, men want to return the favor.

How to give a compliment professionally:
give compliments based on real facts, and to do this, notice even the smallest achievements of your partner;
admire the qualities of a man (successful, charismatic, strong, etc.).
celebrate his achievements;
sincerely admire his loved ones, and remember: for one compliment given to a friend, give eight to your man, so as not to cause jealousy. Compliment his parents more often;
Admire accessories that highlight masculinity. Praise his car, apartment, house.

Be grateful. This is the most important thing you need to learn in order to receive gifts. When you feel gratitude, biochemical processes take place that have a powerful attractive effect. And feeling gratitude before receiving a gift is the main task to ensure that you always receive them throughout your life.

Gratitude can be compared to charity. Give gratitude to every man just like that, free of charge, without expecting to receive anything in return. And then your life will be filled with even brighter colors.

Exercise. Call all your ex-men and thank each of them for the pleasant minutes you spent with them. Give thanks for the life lessons they taught you. And you will feel your body filled with vitality. This is gratitude.

Well, at the end of all of the above, an excerpt from Pavel Rakov’s training

If you haven't read (heard/seen) yet, get acquainted.)) Another guru for naive fools - professional "cheater" Pavel Rakov. His “trainings” are gaining more and more popularity in cities and towns.

Our columnist attended the popular women's training “Why am I so smart, but I live like a fool.” What came of it, read below.
A person always lacks a little for complete happiness. Without whom we, of course, are somehow incomplete. Just recently I had an argument with a friend. I say: “Eh, we are beauties. What kind of borscht they cooked - well done.” In response, she broke loose: “What good is it alone! We don’t have husbands!” That's it. Without your husbands, you can’t even sip borscht calmly. Does the social climate have an impact? All this discourse about a healthy family and spiritual bonds? Be that as it may, people like my dear friend now feed a huge industry of show business.

Their darkness. “Success gurus”, “masters of the tenth stage of happiness”, “brahmins of sex coaching”, etc. and so on. If you don't believe me, look on the Internet. These children of Lieutenant Schmidt gather a larger audience than Pugacheva’s children.

They say “lay down” instead of “put down”, have diplomas from the “world academies of everything” and promise to reveal the secret of happiness in two days (and the secret of oral sex - bonus).

Among others, I was attracted to a man named Pavel Rakov. Firstly, his training is called “Why am I so smart, but I live like a fool.” The author, in just two days off, undertakes to explain to a young lady - of any age, height and civil status - the fatal mistakes of her path. Secondly, this training tours throughout the CIS and gathers audiences of thousands from Kharkov to Novosibirsk. Thirdly, I was touched by the literary allusion: the cost of the studies is six thousand four hundred rubles per person. As we remember, it was this amount that Shura Balaganov needed for complete happiness.

On Saturday morning, a natural “Viennese Ball” gathered at the Izmailovo-Beta hotel. Swarovski, curls, shoulders - on dangerously high platforms. The triumph of femininity was spoiled by the sleepy guests of Beta in slippers and sweatpants, but no one paid attention to them. Walking along the legs in the packed hall, I grabbed a chair in the back row.

An athletic man and a girl with four higher education degrees between them and a slight Southern Russian accent took the stage. They introduced themselves as “leading leaders” and told how they got rid of excess weight, found love and success (someone even gave the young lady an Infinity). The audience cheered. The great Pavel Rakov, whose wisdom had benefited previous speakers, was released onto the stage to a standing ovation.

Good evening! – Rakov greeted mysteriously and continued even more mysteriously:

For two days I will create stressful situations for you. After all, only in stressful situations does a person show what he really is!
The first couple of hours passed quietly. In order not to live like a fool, you have to get a man - this is clear by default. In this regard, Paul told the secret of the structure of the male world. In his mind, this world looks like a triangle on paper. The top part is occupied by presidents, State Duma deputies and businessmen of categories “A” and “B”. Below are "B". God forbid you get involved with loser Ge! Ge - it is Ge.

When dating a man who works for hire, you are making a mistake! - the guru snapped. We'll have to look up to the deputies...

The point of attracting “man A” came down to the simple rule of looking good and “radiating positivity.” A real woman always smiles at a man and without any fuss. “Whoever laughs with their mouth closed is constipated,” “A woman with constipation collects toxins and never laughs!” - Pavel joked charismatically to bursts of laughter and applause. He had difficulty choosing a gloomy lady from the audience and did an “exercise” with her: “I call you “Fool,” and you smile.”

How little does a smart woman need: pay six thousand, get up at six in the morning - come to hell, listen to humor about constipation... To justify the editorial costs, the author of these lines laughed as a disguise and prepared to be bored. Not so.

Chicken fights

The dull plot about “men A and B” suddenly took a sharp turn.

There are not enough alpha males for everyone - we have to fight for them! – Pavel said. And he began to create a model of struggle.

Do you see that the first two rows in the hall are not occupied? They say "VIP" on them. The first row costs three thousand rubles, the second – two. Now two people will come on stage and sell VIP seats. Your task is to buy counterfeit goods from them.

Two boys dressed as hockey goalkeepers walked onto the stage. Streams of young ladies rushed towards them from all corners. One moment - and the ladies clung to the hockey players, like brutal Romans to the quivering Sabine women. “Look what's happening! – Pavel said in the voice of commentator Ozerov, “for my own money!” They tore off one guy's helmet and started grabbing his head (apparently to tear it off too), then it turned out that the tickets were sold out. However, the incident was not over. In the stalls, two ladies tried to take one chair and got into trouble again.

"That's life!" - Rakov concluded with inspiration. From his further words it turned out that everyone who did not go out to fight, losers and alpha males will not receive.

Objections were heard in the hall.
- Who said anything about self-esteem? – the guru perked up. – The Institute of Noble Maidens was shot in 1917. And you are the descendants of the overseers. I'll tell you the truth: do you know what your dignity leads to? You'll be left alone! This is the rule of neuromarketing: those who do not make it onto this stage are losers. You f...pe, fools.

In general, “fools” and “torn bitches” - this is how Pavel, in a homely manner, addressed the audience every time he attacked women’s vices. Yes, in fact, that’s all he did.

The number one defect of women is distrust of men. Several volunteers were invited to the stage. Pavel brought a paper glass to each of them in turn, pretended that he wanted to pour it out and said: “There is no water there.” The young ladies either believed it or didn’t believe it and recoiled slightly. The latter, already completely convinced that the glass was empty, carefully poured it onto the top of her head.

Sorry, honey, I screwed up,” our guru beamed as the victim wiped himself off, “you see!” It's OK. It's okay when a man makes mistakes, let us make mistakes sometimes.
Then he attacked the workers.

A woman shouldn't work! Work is killing the woman in you! Working women's balls of iron rattle! Who wants to quit their job?

Surprisingly: almost half wanted it.

Get on all fours! – our leader commanded the two most dissatisfied ones. They - a little less decisively - obeyed. And then Pavel, with the agility of the farce Parsley, pulled out of the air a natural shovel with a wooden handle and tapped the ladies on the most prominent part of the body. The young ladies squeaked in embarrassment. The audience cheered, as if they were just waiting for someone to be spanked with a shovel...

Mom said!

One young lady admitted that she likes to work: she builds a state district power station. Our guru indignantly pulled her onto the stage and began to babble at her: “you’re fat, no one wants to have sex with you,” etc. But she behaved with pleasant dignity (supposedly exterminated in the 17th year).

During the break, we chatted with a wonderful builder. "What are you doing here? Are you really a fool too? And you, brute!” I say. “It’s not like I…Mom’s counting.” Mom is sacred. Mom presses about “getting married” - and the already smart, rich, beautiful daughter, as if under hypnosis, goes to listen to herself about the “truth” that they will tell her on any tram. Sensing something was wrong, I went to the people with a survey. Among the members of the congress were: a psychologist, a mathematics teacher, a doctor and a choral conductor. But everyone is like the daughter of one mother who demands a son-in-law and grandchildren. Two even came with their mothers. And alone with dad. I remembered the immortal lines of Taras Shevchenko: “They are silent - they go to corvee and lead their children with them...”. But the poet said this about serfdom, and here are a thousand free women of the twenty-first century.

On Saturday evening, our brahman ordered an obedience: buy his book in the foyer for 250 rubles and sell it with a profit to a passerby on the street. Speculation in the book will certainly increase our self-esteem. “One girl sold it for one hundred and fifty thousand,” Pavel admonished.
Fourty years? Crawl to the cemetery

The next day, hearing that the flock did not dare to make money, the guru became fiercely angry: “You do not have female hormones endorphins (actually endorphin is a “general” pleasure hormone, female hormones are called estrogens) because you do not produce testosterone in men! You are losers, you infect a man with the virus of failure! You're leaking pus! Especially those over forty. You are all already dead!

Offhand, the “dead women” made up about a third of the meeting, but this did not bother our speaker. After making some noise, he ordered the audience to stand with their hands raised for half an hour.

Having calmed down a little and drinking some water, he - with renewed vigor - attacked the sexual side of love. It turned out that women are to blame here too:

You are drawing energy from a man without giving anything in return!

As a result of the raider's seizure of energy, the man is exhausted and bleeding. Yes, it’s generally incomprehensible how he didn’t die from us destructive women...

To better understand the subtle masculine nature, Pavel did the “Socks” exercise. The lucky girls from the front row took the stage. But this time they were very unlucky.

I wore old shoes today. And he didn't change his socks. I had a hard time putting them on today! “They were lying in a puddle,” Pavel announced, ominously taking off his shoes.

Then he took the socks and began waving them dangerously close to the meeting:

This is how to smell socks: smile and say “how nice!” They smell fragrant!”

...And none of the young ladies doubted the fragrance of the socks. Still would. Such grandmothers cry.

The creative genius of our beneficiary did not end there. He worked long and hard. He smashed the TV with an axe. He showed how to get out of a car in a sexy way (with his hem pulled up and his hand covering the biblical spot). He encouraged us to “start a new life” and promoted his summer camp, where everyone would be taught a raw food diet and multi-orgasm. It’s well known: without a raw food diet, you won’t have an orgasm, don’t even dream about it.
Overall, a strong show that makes you think. That's what it's about. By admonishing fools, our coach creates a completely schizophrenic model of the “truth of life.” He agitates not to work, but at the same time to look like a goddess (getting money from blackmail books).
Get out of the car only in a hurry, always smile. But at the same time, punch each other in the face for the men. Moreover, for those who can only be seen on TV... If you believe in the existence of such a “truth of life”, very soon the houses of mourning will not withstand the influx of Pavel Rakov’s former clientele. He, of course, is not without natural charm, which he skillfully reinforces by bringing his best to the stage adherents - noble raw foodists, favored by fortune, who know a lot about multi-orgasms.
He uses convincing terminology: “g...but”, “f..pa”, “neuromarketing” and “dopamine” in the meaning of “estrogen”. But, for mercy’s sake, it’s obvious: it’s impossible to increase your self-esteem by fighting and standing on all fours on stage. To attract “businessmen” - even more so. It is much wiser to save six thousand four hundred rubles for a vacation. Go to the resort, eat lobster, watch the people. They may not all be millionaires, but they are not defensive hockey players either. And don’t give any more money to all these hybrids of Kashpirovsky and Panikovsky. Otherwise, you know, it’s a shame for the country: where are we going when in any city there can easily be a thousand fools?..

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