Betting on breaking up the relationship between father and daughter. Ceremony of cutting the energetic umbilical cord. Personal information as a tool of manipulation

The role of the father in raising his daughter still seems insignificant to some. Daddy loves her and that's enough. Is it so?

Everything is clear with boys - their father teaches them to be courageous, brave, take responsibility for themselves and others, fight for rights and protect the weak. What about the girls? It used to be that raising daughters was entirely in the hands of the mother. In practice, it turns out that if a daughter grew up without a father (literally or figuratively), and friendly contact was not established with him, then the child has to fly through life as if without one wing. Psychologists have already repeatedly mentioned the relationship between father and daughter. What consequences could there be in the future due to a bad relationship with your father in the past?

The role of the father in raising his daughter. Who was your dad?

Ideal? If you delve into the past, many will find something to remember:

• alcoholic father
• left the family early
• was a workaholic.

Or he simply lived nearby, but did not show any interest in his daughter and did not educate her. Some had fathers who were “cold” and aloof, while others were much more unlucky.

If the father drank, walked around, beat the children or the mother, then the feeling of injustice and hatred can live in the soul for years, leaving a heavy imprint on all life events.

Psychology has long established that the connection between father and daughter subconsciously influences the building of relationships between a girl and her chosen one in the future. For example, if a father has never admired his daughter, then when she grows up, she will not expect compliments from fans. But these are small things compared to the serious problems girls can face in adulthood if they had problems with their fathers.

Father-daughter relationship: subconscious choice of the wrong men

A huge problem with a bad relationship between father and daughter is revealed at the moment when it comes to dating and choosing a life partner. If sharp edges and some psychological traumas can be hidden in work, relationships with friends, then when it comes to building connections with the opposite sex, all those complexes, fears and mental attitudes that we received in childhood come to light. Nobody wants an alcoholic or tyrant husband, but girls who have had fathers with the same problem have a much higher chance of choosing a guy with an addiction.

Psychology "father-daughter"

Dad is called upon to help his daughter grow up bold, self-confident, but at the same time feminine. It is the father who instills in the girl a sense of self-worth, attractiveness and aspiration for what she wants. When a child at an early age does not receive his father's attention, approval and care, then self-doubt creeps into him. As a result, statistical data states that in families where fathers abandoned their wives and children, girls more often begin to have early sexual activity, many become pregnant at the age of 15-16 years. The fear is triggered that the man will definitely leave, leave the family, and therefore you need to hurry. If you appreciate this, it is not difficult to understand how important the role of the father is in raising his daughter.

Unreliable father. What will your daughter grow up to be?

Powerful women who are capable of exhibiting masculine character traits, being tough and uncompromising, most likely had weak-willed and irresponsible fathers. Such dads were unable to bring money into the family, drank, and obeyed the whims of their domineering mother.

The girl carries such a relationship between father and daughter into adulthood, trying to compensate for the lack and take responsibility for everything into her own hands. As a result, along the way you come across men who need to be pulled, looked after, and, possibly, provided for. At the same time, the mental attitude may not manifest itself so clearly, but if you start analyzing the situation, it turns out that the woman is simply not able to stop controlling everything (after all, she does this unconsciously, at the subconscious level).

The domineering father of a flexible daughter

If the relationship between father and daughter developed differently, for example, dad was domineering, demanding, strict, then it’s a different story. The girl was required to be sweet, helpful, feminine, not to show any masculine qualities, and not to defend her opinion. Most often, such fathers give instructions to study and then get married successfully.

The connection between father and daughter is so strong that even if the young lady starts her own business or becomes a boss, the attitude of being in a subordinate position will manifest itself in her relationship with her man. After all, the chosen one is chosen on a subconscious level with the same character traits that were present in the father.

What to do if the relationship between father and daughter is difficult and painful

Analysis of the situation will help you fight against incorrect attitudes in adult life that come from childhood:

• Did you have any problems in childhood?
• what kind of connection existed and exists between father and daughter,
• how the father behaved in childhood and what he is like now, etc.

A psychologist is best able to help diagnose and solve such a problem. However, if you have just begun to understand the situation, you can try to figure it out on your own.

Analyze all your romantic stories: perhaps they have something in common? If it is obvious that you are “unlucky” with men in life, you need to change your psychological attitudes. It can be difficult to do this without a specialist, because father-daughter psychology is not limited to one article or a moment of insight.

Problems that migrate from childhood to adulthood are the deepest and most emotionally difficult. However, now you can try to change the situation.

• Start with awareness and acceptance: your father was not a perfect person, you need to forgive him and stop looking for a partner who would be like him.
• Think about what aspects of your father are most difficult for you to come to terms with. Do you subconsciously look for similar traits in other people? To do this, look at your surroundings: bosses, husband, former partners.
• Remember the difficult periods of your life, difficult conversations with your father about your choice. Did he allow you to make decisions on your own? Did you support it?
• Analyze which of his words hurt you the most, and when he was the only stronghold and support for you.

The role of the father in upbringing is great, but do not rush to blame him for all your problems. The relationship between father and daughter is a delicate thread; it must be dealt with as carefully as with any type of family relationship. In order not to harm yourself or him, it is better - this will help show your connection more clearly and its impact on adult life.

An energetic connection with the mother is formed during the period of intrauterine development of the child. At this time, the fetus is completely dependent on the woman, since it is physically located in her biofield.

During childbirth, the baby leaves the mother's body, which is accompanied by cutting the umbilical cord. But on the energy plane the connection is not interrupted. It is preserved in the form of a fairly strong and flexible channel, located at the same level as the regular, “material” umbilical cord.

In the first years of a baby’s life, such closeness is necessary:

• the mother always feels when the child is not all right;
• the mother intuitively understands why the baby cries and how to calm him down;
• the mother can give the newborn strength and nourish him.

Until about three or four years of age, due to the existence of the energetic umbilical cord, the child constantly receives “portions of love” necessary to create his personal aura. But by the age of six or seven, such a connection begins to lose relevance: by the first grade, a person, as a rule, already has a developed biofield capable of reflecting the main blows.

During adolescence, the umbilical cord weakens even more. The child moves away from his parents, breaks away from them, and begins to lead his own life. In this aspect, conflicts, quarrels, and ignoring requests are the norm: this is the only way a person can break the emotional connection with his mother (special rites of passage into adulthood have not been carried out for a long time).

The natural rupture of the energy umbilical cord is experienced as a crisis and can be accompanied by depression, loss of strength, “binges,” etc. But gradually the situation levels out: an adult gets used to independence and new living conditions. It becomes a separate unit and manages itself independently.

Why does the energy umbilical cord remain in adults?

By the age of twenty, a person should not have an energetic “attachment” to his mother. But it happens that the umbilical cord remains - and in a very developed state. This happens for one of several reasons:

1. The mother has a strong will and character, is used to controlling everything and is not ready to let the child “float freely.” It “hammers” the child’s personality so much that until adolescence there is nothing left that can offer resistance.
2. The woman is dissatisfied with her own existence and seeks to live at the expense of the child. He is sent to the circles that his mother once wanted to attend, they dress him in clothes she likes, they force him to go to the parent’s “dream places”... And all this continues into the “baby’s” adulthood.
3. The child's personality is initially weak. The situation can be corrected if the family turns out to be sensitive and understanding. But sometimes a mother cannot help her child because of her own problems. And then either the person will be so afraid of life that he himself will not want to “take off his skirt,” or he will be “trained” into absolute obedience and it will not even occur to him to change anything.

The most critical factor for maintaining an abnormal energy connection between an adult and a mother is the personal weakness of a person. In other cases, it is possible to overcome the parent’s resistance, albeit “with a fight.” But a weak person will not do this: he does not have enough character, because living “under guardianship” is much easier.

Signs of an uncut energetic umbilical cord in an adult

You can recognize the presence of an unhealthy energetic connection with your mother by some very obvious symptoms. They all relate to the behavior and inner feeling of a person who:

• unable to make independent decisions without looking at the mother;
• is afraid of the mother’s negative reaction and abandons the plan if she believes that it might anger the parent;
• does not tolerate conflicts with his mother well and prefers to hush up his dissatisfaction, without trying to start at least a semblance of a constructive conversation;
• lives with parents after 25 years of age, subject to the ability and desire to move out;
• has an unsettled personal life, because he has not yet “discussed” the topic of sexual development with his mother and is afraid of her reaction to the appearance of a soul mate;
• is embarrassed to drink alcohol in front of his parents;
• hides his hobbies from his mother, because he is not sure that she will accept them;
• considers himself weak and “small” compared to others.

In general, an adult behaves like a teenager. On a subconscious level, he agrees that the mother has the right to punish, limit the circle of friends, prohibit, etc. Often such a person does not even think about the possibility of telling the parent: “No.” It just doesn't occur to him.

How to break the umbilical cord with mom using volts

The classic ritual of breaking the energy umbilical cord involves the use of special witchcraft dolls - volts. They can be made from wax, clay or fabric. One figurine represents the mother, the second – the sorcerer. It is advisable to place the biomaterial of the corresponding person in the volts. Nails, blood, saliva, hair, etc. will do. If it is not possible to obtain such particles, it is permissible to burn the photograph and use ashes as biomaterial.

The figures need to be knitted with red thread at the level of the waist. This simulates the umbilical cord. You need to pick up a knife or scissors and clearly pronounce the spell:

“My mother gave birth, she gave me milk, she rocked me in her arms, she sang lullabies, she didn’t know rest, she didn’t eat food, she didn’t sleep, but she kept rocking me and rocking me. The umbilical cord broke, was forever disconnected, was not held together by blood, and did not return with pain. Mothers can’t live without me, they can’t live without me, they can’t feed on me, they can’t share themselves. I must live, without my mother I should not grieve, I should not cry, I should not be bored, I should not reach out for my arms, I should stretch out to my full height. I am cut off from my mother, I am cut off from her veins!”

At the last words the thread should be cut. Volts must be buried under different fruit-bearing trees. This is how people are separated: from now on, they will be nourished separately from each other.

For the success of the ritual, it is very important that the person really sees himself and his mother in the volts. It is recommended that you first engage in visualization, trying to transfer the corresponding images to the figures. The “umbilical cord” should be perceived as a hot and pulsating thread along which living energy flows.

Breaking the energetic connection with your mother does not mean that your relationship with her will deteriorate. They will simply become different - more mature, restrained and trusting. The most important thing is that the painful dependence that does not allow a person to lead his own full life will disappear.

From comments on the forum: “Etheric cords connect us many times throughout our lives with different people. With some, the connections disintegrate on their own, and this is correct; with others, due to emotional attachments or for some other reason, the connections are not broken. But they can negatively affect us and that person. "cleanse. Karmic consequences - a piece of your soul is returned to you, that person to him, the energy is returned to the owners. And this is a way out of love and in no case out of negativity. You do not cause any injury or harm."

Energy umbilical cords and cords - removal techniques

The energetic umbilical cord is the energetic connection between parents and child. Most often it connects mother and child.

In early childhood, the presence of this umbilical cord is not so significant, but when the child grows up, such a connection becomes dangerous for him.

This connection is maintained by the mother to satisfy her needs. For example, for protection and unwillingness to see your loneliness and your lack of fulfillment in some aspects of life.

Such a connection between mother and child practically makes him incapacitated, unable to make decisions and live his own destiny. Make your desires and dreams come true.

Such “adult children” do not have good relationships with partners, colleagues, and friends. They can't find their calling. Such a connection closes all systems and sense organs, a clear vision of the situation is lost, a person stops hearing himself, he is tormented by feelings of “guilt without guilt,” resentment, apathy, dissatisfaction with himself and his life. He becomes weak, unable to act independently. Often, such boys grow up to be “mama’s boys,” while girls live out their mother’s failed fate or don’t get married at all.

The child (adult:)) does not take responsibility, shifts it to the mother. This manifests itself in indecision about what the mother will think, subconscious copying of the mother’s actions, as well as demands from the mother to do as the child wants (a continuation of children’s whims).

The mother does not allow the child to take responsibility, she tries to do what he should do for him ALREADY do it yourself, interfere in his life, etc.

It is important to break the energetic umbilical cord after the child reaches adulthood. it has already fulfilled its functions by that time, and leads to inhibition of the child’s personal development. The cutting can be done either by the child himself, or by the mother, or with the informed consent of one of them.

Technique for cutting the “ENERGY UMBILICAL CORD”

You need to retire, calm your body and mind. You need to do a little meditation and completely tune in.

Call on the help of the Higher Powers, Guardian Angels, Archangel Michael and Archangel Raphael.

Call your child, imagine him, remember his voice, smell, feel the energy of your child.

Ask the Higher Powers to show you where the energy umbilical cord is between you.

Try to see and feel it. As soon as you feel ready, say the intention: “I ask Archangel Michael to cut the energetic umbilical cord connecting me and my (daughter, son, Name) for my highest Good and the highest Good of my (daughter, son, Name).”

After this, say that you are returning all your energy to yourself, giving all the energy that does not belong to me - the owner.

You can visualize Archangel Michael cutting this connection with his sword.

The Goddess in me salutes the Divinity in you.

Here is the ritual I recommended for cutting the energetic umbilical cord with your mother.

You take a photo of your mother, a church candle, a red thick thread, and scissors.

You put a photo of your mother on the table and light a candle. You enter the flow of Reiki energy and call upon the Higher Powers to help you.

Then you take a thread and apply one end to your navel, the other end to the swadhisthana of your mother’s chakra in the photo. You take scissors and with the intention of cutting the energetic umbilical cord that connects you to your mother, you cut this thread. The most important intention here is to cut the energetic umbilical cord. Next, these threads need to be burned and the candle allowed to burn out.

Usually, after such a procedure, the relationship changes completely, the mother stops constantly interfering in the child’s life. The relationship turns into a relationship between two adults.

P.S. I prefer this version of the intent:
“I ask the Higher Powers, our Higher Selves (mine and my child), Spirit, our souls, mentors and Guardian Angels to assist us now. I ask Archangel Michael to cut the energetic umbilical cord connecting me and my (daughter, son, name) for my highest Good and the highest Good of my (daughter, son, name).
I give you (daughter, son, Name) all your true energy that was in me, and I return to myself all my true energy that was in you.
I ask the Higher Powers to heal with Divine love all the consequences of this energetic umbilical cord on all levels and realities, here and now.”

Imagine how an energy cord or tube is cut (depending on how you see it), and then imagine how a gentle pink light descends, filling both of you and sealing the cut edges of the tube, so that your child’s energy and yours remain with you, and do not leave through the open ends tubes.
Stay in this state for as long as necessary and thank everyone for their help and work done.

P.S. (25.10.2018)
Once again, the energy umbilical cord is a sacred channel. I don’t cut off or remove things without which life could completely go downhill. But canceling contracts and rearranging the flow of energy is another matter.
The mother's skirt and the mother's umbilical cord (parental connection) are fundamentally different concepts.

A child up to the age of 12 lives on the mother’s energy, after which this connection weakens, but does not disappear - the mother’s energy can protect her child in danger. And the connection with the father is like an open umbrella and the child lives on this energy until the age of 21.
Another question is: is this connection adequate and healthy?
The method that I described in the post is useful if the mother or father lives off the energy of the child, or is unduly dominant, influences the life of an adult child, and in similar cases.
Thanks to such practices, the connection may weaken or change; additional connections may fall off, but the main ancestral connection remains. It will just become more harmonious.

But in order to start living independently, you still need to break away from your mother’s skirt, but this is a metaphorical statement.

I would like to once again raise the topic of psychologists.
During the examination, the psychologist shouted that there is an inextricable connection between father and daughter and that a stepfather cannot replace this. That a stranger will never be able to love a child as his own. And at the end she added so sweetly: “And in general, you know that stepfathers rape children.” He was a “professional” in his field. But now about something else.

I would like to raise the topic of the connection between father and daughter. What if the father was not in his daughter’s life? What if he didn't do anything good for her? Could she then develop such a connection with her stepfather? Will her stepfather be able to replace her father at this high level of understanding?

I read a lot on this topic and nowhere is it written that the connection is formed specifically with the biological father, because... Based on this, all sperm donors should feel a connection and rush, overcoming all obstacles, to their biological children. This is utter stupidity. In the process of growing up and raising a child, he looks for standards and examples to follow. And this standard, without the presence of a father in the child’s life, can become not only a stepfather, but also a grandfather and uncle and just a family friend.

And as for violence in families... if you really dig, count the statistics of children killed and raped by blood relatives, including their own parents. The psychologist turned out to be unprofessional, incompetent, and most importantly in the examination, not objective.

Below is a great article on influence. men for my daughter's life.

Data from many studies show: a girl’s relationship with her closest adult man (usually her father) in early childhood has a significant impact on her subsequent personal life. For her, her father is the first man in her life who loves her simply for the fact of her existence. He becomes the ideal man that the girl will look for in the future. However, this is only true in the case of a warm, close relationship with the father. Otherwise, the girl will focus on men whose character excludes the negative traits of her father.

Thus, A. Adler believes that as a result of the father’s temper, some girls develop a prototype that excludes men because of their temper. Women who remember their fathers as friendly and affectionate are more likely to rate their marriages as successful sexually, emotionally and spiritually than women who remember an image of a cold and unloving father. Frigid women, as a rule, had extremely inattentive fathers who did not show any concern for the health and development of their daughter. Women suffering from sexual perversions often recall that their fathers did not play any role in the family. An analysis of their experiences allowed psychiatrists to claim that such women experience “longing for a strong father.” It is especially interesting that scientists were unable to find a connection between the characteristics of a woman’s personal life and the behavior of her mother; Apparently, the father's influence in this regard is predominant.

A huge role in the fate of a girl is played, first of all, by the father’s general assessment of her external attractiveness - even in the youngest, preschool years, and even more so in adolescence, when appearance becomes such an important factor in self-esteem. If her father actively does not like her daughter, and he emphasizes her unattractiveness in every possible way, we can say with confidence: her destiny as a woman will not be easy. She will have to endure and suffer a lot. She may have to work on herself before she believes in her merits, her ability to please and conquer men.

It will not be easy for one who grew up in an atmosphere of unconditional paternal adoration and fulfillment of all sorts of whims: it will not be easy for her to get used to the fact that some young people dare to treat her without admiration or even indifference. But, probably, the worst thing is for the one who was generally deprived of the experience of such communication in childhood and who, having matured, is perplexed and perplexed, looking at men: with them (she suspects) you need to talk and behave somehow differently than with your friends. But how is unclear...

In the best position is the girl whose loving father (or maybe an uncle, older brother or family friend) gently and unobtrusively reminded her of her attractiveness, cuteness, and her maiden dignity, thereby forming a strong, sustainable self-esteem and faith into yourself.
Good fathers are able to help their daughters learn to interact with members of the opposite sex appropriately to the situation.

As mentioned earlier, the development of a child is also influenced by the relationship between parents. However, an interesting fact is that girls are able to orient themselves even to a father who has lost his position as the head of the family, if only he is affectionate and kind to them, if he happily spends at least a little time with them. For the development of a daughter’s personality, what is more important is not who leads the family, but how conflicting the parents’ relationships are. If the father resigns himself to the position of a follower, and the parents do not conflict, the daughter retains love and respect for both of them, and, consequently, for herself.

It should once again emphasize the significant role of the father in the formation of the masculine and feminine qualities of the child. It is the father who to a greater extent accustoms children to their gender roles and can significantly help both sons and daughters in the process of their gender identification to overcome dependence on the mother, which is established in early childhood. Thus, participation in the upbringing of the father contributes to the development of femininity in the girl, but in turn, too strong an identification with the father carries the danger of excessive “masculinization.”

In general, for a girl, a father represents a model of behavior for a person of the opposite sex, on the basis of which ideas about men are formed. This is what determines the influence of the relationship between father and daughter on her future personal life.
A man’s participation in upbringing makes it possible for her logical thinking and, as a consequence, mathematical abilities to develop normally, determines her performance at school, and contributes to the development, although to a lesser extent than that of a boy, of her interests and aspirations. All this ultimately leads to the formation of certain life goals, aspirations, and interests that influence the child’s subsequent life, including the choice of profession.

I have a different situation - almost a mirror one.

I, being of sound mind and solid memory, want to formalize the renunciation of family relations with my mother.

I am 47 years old, my mother is 75. We have been living separately for a sufficient period of time. I am married, my son is 23 years old. At one time, after my father’s death, my mother, taking advantage of my legal illiteracy at that time, registered a 3-room cooperative apartment (the share had long been paid off) for herself. She, I, my son and my sister (now 40 years old) were registered in this apartment. After some time, on the basis of mutual hostility and having a strong desire to evict my son and me from an apartment in nowhere, my mother secretly draws up a deed of gift for my sister. My sister, using her right as an owner, is suing me and my son (by the way, my mother’s only grandson) for eviction and deprivation of the right to live in this apartment. At that time, my son was not even 17 years old. I lost the trial. This was in 2007.

Today, the three of us - my husband (second marriage - after all these events), my son and I are registered in a 1-room apartment that is my property.

We do not maintain any communication with our mother and sister.

Since 1995 (since the death of my father), a plot in the cemetery has been registered with me (for almost 18 years), where all my relatives on my father’s side are buried - his parents (my grandparents), his sister (my aunt) and my father himself .

In September 2012, the sister submitted an application to the State Unitary Enterprise Ritual with a request to re-register the plot to her. The ritual refuses her.

Now she has filed a lawsuit against me with a demand to divide the plot in half, so that the part where our grandfather and father are buried goes to her, and - if our mother dies, then she could bury her in the grave with her father.

I never prevented them from visiting the burial site, nor did I put a lock on the fence gate. Naturally, I will not mind my mother being buried in this plot. By the way, all this was also written in the letter of refusal from State Unitary Enterprise Ritual, which my sister received in response to her application.

I'm already tired - both mentally and physically - of her antics! I understand that she is doing this with the knowledge and instigation of my mother. I would like to stop all this once and for all!

What should I do? Naturally, I will come to court - and I will defend my rights to the plot, especially since I have someone to transfer them to - my son in the first place, since all his relatives on my side are buried there.

I would like to completely protect my family from the inadequate interference of my relatives in our lives - once and for all. I have serious suspicions that both my sister and mother are mentally ill.

I want - if possible - to write a disclaimer of my relationship with my mother.

They won’t calm down, they will continue to crap further.

I’ll say it in a nutshell - they live together in a 3-room apartment. In the apartment (filthy as if it were homeless people’s housing - I left such a place, I don’t think anything has changed for the better) - two completely sick women, 75 and 40 years old. My sister didn’t get married, she doesn’t have anyone. They live envying me, their neighbors - in general, everyone who, in their opinion, has a successful life.

Neither I nor my son want to know them.

We want one thing - for them to leave us alone once and for all!