Description of feelings of love. Sincere love: the essence of feeling, description, difference from falling in love and interesting facts How to describe love beautifully

Modern man is a realist who invented a separate word for each type of car, but only one word "Love" to express the most diverse emotional experiences.

Erich Fromm

– Let's write a love story!

– Come on.) I'm always ready for love!

– It's not what you thought! It's about feelings! All-consuming and gentle to love to the grave.

– To the grave - this is a dezfik. Although I agree, some girly love stories can kill. So that the reader does not die of boredom, let's write passion and erotica!

– What are you, gentle romance with hints of erotica makes hearts flutter and dream. Romance has always been and will always be a favorite genre of readers.

– But the reader should be allowed to enjoy the hero's love victories. If he is “dynamized” all the time, then the excitement will disappear.

– Not necessary. Gentle fluff, although many deny it, is read by the majority. It warms and makes the reader a little happier.

– But we are talking about love! And love without sex as unimpressive as sex without love.

– Passion is also tender. And don't overdo it - it's important.

– "Understand" too. As in life, the characters need not to mumble if the “right” moment has come.

– It would seem - how much is written about love, how much is written, but the majority perceive the variety of genres and types of love lyrics, like love relationships themselves - somewhere they heard, saw, composed something ...

We all read about love, and some also wrote about it. They wrote about tender and quivering, about passionate and hot, about tiringly beautiful and exhausting ... Admit it! Did you write?

But how often have you thought about the fact that love in literature has its own genres and directions? Above we argued about writing love story and it turned out that both meant absolutely different types. Therefore, if you determine what kind of love stories you are going to write even before you start writing, then this may help with the storyline, and certainly the details in the header will help you find your reader.

Agree. Equally annoying as "gentle" critics who are sick of reading PVP-episodes and commentators making fun of the romantic fluff calling him "snot". To each his own, IMHO.

Despite the fact that a great many books have been written about love, it is still shouted loudly, whispered gently and moaned passionately. And I don't think they will stop doing it in the future. But love is so many-sided that works about it cannot be the same, but they can be of the same type.

But it's really interesting. For a person, love is so natural and necessary that he gives these feelings even to intelligent lizards and cyborgs. The absolute number of plots of world literature, if not revolves around love, then at least includes a conflict tied to it.

Yes, and sex - after all, nothing really new was invented for a very long time, but the same, in principle, simple process, with the desire and talents, can become art, and its description can become a bestseller.

"Fi," someone will tell me. – If the work is typical in the description of feelings, if the characters behave according to a certain pattern, then is it really interesting?!”

“Of course it's interesting! I will answer with enthusiasm. “After all, every writer puts his feelings, a piece of dreams, experiences and hopes into the work. A talented writer will give a new color to the colors of feelings, make the characters reveal emotions, confess love in a new way, prove its existence in hundreds of maddening ways.

Isn't it interesting to find out in one story another? In the end, in literature, as in life, the process is almost more interesting than the result;)

And if love has become annoying, it means that you are used to a passive role - just to receive or observe. It's time to change position.

"Here you go! And they said that love can be classified! - the indignant exclamation of the reader is heard.

I don't back down from my words. All love works can be divided into types or attributed to genres. And it's not writer's laziness or lack of originality that is to blame, but human psychology. Often the type of personality of the author, his worldview, life experience dictates how the character will love, and even how he will make love.

Yes, this sounds dry in theory, you may get the feeling that they are trying to shove the adventure into the instructions. But in fact, there is no more dryness in plot planning than in deciding whether to buy champagne or cognac for a date and whether to visit a sex shop.

I am touched by authors who worry that readers will project the described love perversions onto them. If you remember yourself in the process of reading the book, did it ever occur to you that the author himself personally experienced the events described or even simply would like to experience them? It's not necessary.

Well, of course, the author does not always draw characters from himself. Although this also happens. But more often, certain patterns of perception work, and in the head of the writer some of the possible options for the development of love relationships are formed.

I often hear from the authors: “My hero cannot behave differently, if the story is rewritten, it will not be the same.” Apparently, this is true, and each of us creates in certain genres, writing out love difficulties or fluff joys for characters. But only until ... until we ourselves change: we absorb new experiences, grow up, become disappointed or find new love. And then the author will slide his pen across new genres, trying on new worlds, events and hopes for the characters.

That is, do you think that it is possible to change the line of behavior of the hero (I don’t mean fanfiction, where OOC is evil) only by changing yourself? Disagree. I have witnessed how they write in an unusual genre, for example, by application or for a competition. I saw how the author simply takes a goal - to learn - and goes to it, trying chips and personal finds along the way.

The fact that in fan fiction the characters should be "in character" and fandom logic is natural. And the "blunders" of behavior are a consequence of the hero's underdevelopment. By the way, we have a good article, how to create a character.

I have met people who are talented in writing different genres of love stories, but still, it seems to me that everyone has their own “trick”.

Let's still deal with such a complex phenomenon as the love genre.

Romance – in one way or another, it is present in all works where it comes to love as a feeling. Romance- this is admiration, this is a love relationship - even if the characters are embarrassed to admit it. The lyrical part of love, in general. Contrary to some slipping information, romance is not necessarily a happy ending, it is unpretentious and gets along great with both angstom (Almond , « ”), as well as action(Serpens_Subtruncius, " In one breath”), and with fluff(Uphemia , « Not today?») . In principle, it can be observed even in dezfik and dark.

Fluff - not necessarily a love genre. This is rather information for the reader that the plot will be soft, not dynamic and cozy ( Li Nata, « Present») . Fluff "smooths" the peaks, so fluff erotica is hard to rank higher R , and angst or other moments that cause emotional unrest and discomfort are not compatible with life for fluff - as a rule, fluff dies.

Similarly, it is not fully a love genre.Hart/comfort , which means suffering/comfort. The fact is that not necessarily the Dragon in love saves the Princess from the Humpbacked Horse that torments her, but the mutual assistance of friends may well be described, although our fanfictioners can readily spot a love relationship even in this case. Suffering/comfort is one of the favorite genres in love stories ( Almond , « Maria Mirabella»).

There is also a rather rareER - Established Relationship - which means "established relationship" (Mad Count, " Family and other troubles. Minis "). Such a story is necessarily, if not a fanfiction, then at least a continuation of an already existing work. EP-ku write when the author forgot to say " the last word” or if readers see contradictions in the final pairing, and the author tries to show and prove that everything is fine (albeit sometimes strange), the relationship has settled, peace and love.

PWP - pornography. The author wants to write sex and he fucking writes it (RossomahaaR, " Sweet dreams"). Good or bad - it depends on the author himself, but that the plot will definitely revolve around the central bed scene - there is no doubt. PVP there are both independent experiments of originalists, and fans of fic-pairings or individual characters. Despite the decoding of the abbreviation "Plotless porn", you should not delude yourself - no one has canceled the laws of logic, physiology, anatomy, justify it should be at least dotted, and OOS kills the very target of the PVP-shki on the spot.

It would seem: everything is covered - you can safely navigate, choosing love to your liking ... And you immediately have to stop yourself, because a protest arises. Not so simple! Especially when it comes to sex. If there are bed scenes in an adventure-love novel, why not write “romance and pvp”? And if in this very erotic scene one partner eats the other, is it worth somehow marking for the impressionable reader that not everything is so joyful? Therefore, special notes were invented, if necessary, explaining the composition of the added "spices".

curtain story - a kind of EP-ki with game elements. The characters behave in an exaggeratedly everyday manner, participate in a routine activity, as if outside the active plot (Dragon Beishe, "Blizzard again"). The reader's attention is occupied by a possible or smoothly ongoing flirtation before this story. In "curtain stories" an important role is played by the element of surprise, chance, a destabilizing situation, due to which the peak tension of the story arises.

YUST - UST (Unrealized sexuality) - a story with such a mark must be written out, because the characters do not enter into erotic, and sometimes romantic relationships, despite the "sparks". Of course, in such stories, a considerable share is occupied by the experiences of the hero who wants, but for some reason cannot even confess to the object of love in feelings. Whether it's timidity, or a piece of toffee that stuck its teeth together, or a deadly incompatibility of characters - it doesn't matter (Nerea, "Out of the rules») .

Lemon - usually midi or maxi, in which, in addition to its own plot, the author pays enough attention to erotic rating scenes fromRand above (Darkflight, "")

If the author saturates the work with erotic scenes without describing them in detail, that is, he firmly adheres to the ratingPG-13, then such a novel can be marked with the mark "lime ". Like a lemon - but small and green (Alizeskis, "Nameless»).

Another "citrus" term - "grapefruit ". As you might guess, the fruit is "bitter" - that is, as in the case of the "lemon", there is quite a lot of rating sex, but often the sexual scenes described in the plot can be classified as violence.

Against this background, the termvanilla ' seems harmless.Some even confuse it with fluff.And indeed - "vanilla" stories, as a rule, describe mutual love with attributes of romance and tenderness. That's just the term "vanilla" itself is a warning for stories posted on the resources of BDSM communities or implying a canon dark or BDSM relationship.

Actually,bdsm (bandage-discipline-sado-maso). Everyone knows at least a little term, a kind of role-playing games in humiliation and submission. Itself has a very non-poor range of species. Most often it implies sexual games with the infliction of suffering by one partner to another, but it is necessary - either voluntarily or with forced consent. Usually the characters use tools for games, but there are times when the “top” goes around for torture with his own body (Aress, “ Daniel»).

Home discipline similar to BDSM, but not it. In works marked DD, one partner punishes the other for wrongdoing, usually with sexual elements of violence.

Kink - note,meaningthat the character's sexual tastes or behavior do not fit standard deviations. In other words, exotic perversions. A kink can be a description of sexual relations, for example, mutants, or characters whom the author endowed with the power of imagination with tentacles, a vagina in the palm of his hand, a half-meterlanguage and so on (Dragon Beishe, " Experiments»).

Wow, how many interesting things we remembered! By the way, in the examples given, it is clearly seen that the gender of the characters does not affect the genre or type of love work. And, of course, the absolute majority of authors and readers are well aware of the symbols for types of love interaction:

geth (from "heterosexual") - this term promises us a heterosexual type of love relationship between heroes. The reader can be sure that the lovers will be of different sexes.

Although the authors are now such entertainers - they can play gender reassignment,genderswitch ( gender switch) . The characters in the story change gender (not to be confused with the original character gender change in fanfic!)This plot twist often provokes comical situations and emotional experiences. If there is a gender change in your work, feel free to write a warning about it.

Yes-ah-ah ... I remember I wrote a gender switch, where two guys turned into girls at the same time. And he could not determine the type of relationship: psychologically - het, outwardly - femme, but in fact - slash.

slash - this type of fan fiction contains descriptions of sexual relations between characters of the same sex, male. If the author chose female characters for the love story, then the heading of the work should be decorated with the note “fe mslash ».

Slash is, after all, a sexual relationship. Even when they are not described, they are implied to have happened. For tender stories about suddenly flashed love people of the same sex while without erotic moments there is a mark “preslash” (regardless of whether women are characters or men).

Pre-slash , preslash - says that the romantic homosexual relationship between the characters is only in its infancy. There may be hints that in the future the relationship will cross the line of friendship.

Use terms: "yaoi ", if love overtook male characters, or "yuri ”, if passion and tenderness swallowed up female characters, it makes sense only in fan fiction based on works of Japanese animation.

Well, it seems that they covered everything ... Both boys and girls, and something in between. They even mentioned the kink - in case of sex with beautiful (or not so) aliens. Although you can get extreme, realizing that some use dogs and sheep as a beautiful alien.

The reader must be warned about unusual sexual relations between the characters.under "Warning":

Omegaverse - works about the heroes of universes invented by the author, where the population is divided into three sexes: "alpha", "beta" and "omega", and the base for all omegaverse sexes is an ordinary woman, or - more often - a man. The attitude of the hero to one of the sexes often predetermines the entire plot of fanfiction. Of course, understanding that the author forces the characters of the omegaverse universe to have sex with each other, one cannot help but notice that we have a special form of slash here. Omegaverse tells about the relationship of a same-sex society, in which the functions of women (carrying and raising children, and sometimes washing dishes) are shifted to omega men (an ersatz of a classic charmer with a penis). The storylines of the omegaverse are often tied to male pregnancy, orMPreg ( Dragon Beishe, flock» ).

incest – the author describes love relationships and sexual relations between close blood relatives (parents and children, brothers and sisters) (lolimilk, “ addiction war"). If in the work the relationship is tied between the twins, then there is a need for the label "Twincest » (contamination "Twin" - "twins" (eng) and "incest" - "incest" ) (Nerea, " Tea for... three»).

Chancelash - this mark is applied to works that describe acts of a sexual nature towards minors, in other words, pedophilia. Work related to this type of work is prohibited for placement on the territory of the Russian Federation and on our portal.

bestiality - the term is interpreted as "a person's attraction to animals, or the recognition of animals as sexually attractive." However, this warning is often used in fantasy and science fiction fanfiction, where the character is endowed with the morphological features of an animal. The use of this technique allows the authors to consider love in a more primitive form or endow the characters with unusual properties, character, and appearance.

Hmm, I wonder where "animality" ends - for example, in the case of sex with a mermaid? Or, say, with a dragon that has two forms...

By the way, I would also like to mentionxenophilia - exactly the same case with a beautiful alien. Sexual relations with non-terrestrial organisms (Shinmaya aka Fred) . Xenophilia is often combined with kink - well, you know - the character upgrade composed by the author for comfort can be really shocking.

Necrophilia - the mark warns that the characters are attracted to and / or involved in sexual intercourse with corpses. The works of this group may consider necrophilia as a kind of fetishism, a disorder of sexual preference, or the glorification of love for a dead body. It is possible to attribute such relationships to love only conditionally.

Oh, while we were talking about labels and warnings placed by a caring author, we completely forgot about the fanfiction that we wanted to write. So what will the new work be like: soft-fluffy or viscous-passionate, with shades of mental suffering or flashes of pain? Or maybe you will invent something unusual, trying to convey in a new way such a many-sided, but such love inseparable from human nature?

I think we will have a "lemon" with fairy tales, erotica and action. Let it be beautiful, and the heroes feel good - after all, they deserve to be happy.

Now, having conceived a new adventure of heroes, I will not forget the described genres, types and warnings. I'm afraid that some of them can also knock in nightmares.

But still, I propose to write about love from the heart, turning feelings into the faces of characters dear to you, into plots of wandering through love labyrinths - into happy and sad endings of stories. After all, writers, like artists, received a wonderful ability as a gift - to revive words, thoughts and feelings, transferring a particle of themselves onto the canvases of works.

Instruction

Most The best way describe your Love is inspiration. Sometimes a person is laconic or shy, but Love transforms it. Appear from somewhere beautiful words about love, and it is simply unrecognizable. Even his shyness or timidity disappears somewhere, this is already a different person! Sometimes there comes a moment when it is very important to say about your love, to express your feelings, but nothing comes to mind. In this case, you need. How to do it? The most important thing is to start. Getting started is the hardest thing. When you start speaking, the right words will come to your mind. You will be surprised where the words come from? But they will flow like a stream, like music, by themselves. Just as I write these words, representing a loved one. No need to think, choose words. When you start talking, you kind of turn on the faucet with water, and it flows. That's all.

But maybe you want to describe your Love not alone, but in writing. Here you can do the same - just start imagining your loved one. And inspiration will come by itself. You might even be able to write , even though you've never tried to. And this is not surprising, because Love at all times inspired poets, musicians, writers and artists. Perhaps you will even open up, who knows?

If the right words don't come to your mind, you can simply recite verses that reflect your feelings. Or at your meeting, put on romantic music that will appeal not only to you, but also to your loved one. Who said, that Love can only be expressed in words? It can also be expressed through music.

You can express your Love and in another way. For example, take a few photos of your beloved (beloved), choose the best one, and write on it "The most charming on the planet that I love!" (or, for example, "Himself best man, whom I adore!"). True, there is one "but": the photo must be of really high quality and show your chosen one (darling) in a favorable light. Sometimes the best photographer will not see the model the way a person sees it.

Or you can just write on different "I". Sometimes you don't need any descriptions, just express your feelings. And feelings can be expressed in different ways. After all Love- a huge scope for creativity and some ideas. You can write a confession under the window of your girlfriend on the pavement. You can sing a romance with a guitar. If you can draw, you can depict the object of your love as you see it. Can you express your Love doing Love Yu. And your loved one will understand you without words. This is also the music of love, because Love is also art. Love and be loved.

Notes from the author.
To begin with, I’ll say right away that the article is being written about love and romance in a heterosexual couple, since I myself write only geth and have the same orientation. Therefore, I do not know how this whole thing proceeds in homosexual couples. And to write something about which you have no idea is at least stupid.
And I must warn you that the article describes the emotions of both men and women. And, although I myself am a girl, I nevertheless took the responsibility to describe the male point of view, since I studied all this for a very long time and even defended a diploma in the direction "family psychology" where the relationship between a man and a woman is the foundation of the foundations. In this article, I tried to transform my experience and knowledge into literary techniques, as I do in my works. Therefore, there is a lot of psychological analysis, without which, it seems to me, it is very difficult to create a believable story, and especially characters. However, I tried to write simply and clearly so that everyone can understand.

PREFACE.
WHAT IS LOVE?
To begin with, each author needs to answer this question for himself. Because this great feeling is never the same. Namely - what kind of love the author wants to show.

Let's look at the most striking examples:
For some, love is need for a person. As a rule, it is this kind of love that is most often described and romanticized. When the characters, and even people in life, cannot imagine their existence without some kind of person, they think only about him and are ready for anything for his sake. Sounds nice. But is it really so? Such a need can be fatal both in relationships and in situations where feelings are not mutual. Such love can become manic when the pursuit of the object of adoration begins. An obsession may appear, and the case will generally end in suicide. "Because I can't live without it!"
Another kind of love quiet or negotiable. Sounds ugly, but don't be prejudiced. For the most part, here a person makes a decision and falls in love with someone by willpower (believe me, this exists) or can start a relationship, guided by a logical choice, and possibly succumbing to circumstances. A similar technique can often be seen in various kinds of anime. When a girl confesses her love to a boy, and he decides: "Why not?" and begins to meet with her, gradually gets used to and falls in love. There may not be frenzied passion here, but you can see respect and care. This happens in life too. People like each other and then start going on dates, spending time together. Sometimes there are feelings, sometimes not. Previously, they did not always marry for love, and young people were told that love would come later. It was precisely this kind of love that was meant, through respect. She, as a rule, is very strong, and, looking later at the old men who lived in marriage until the golden wedding, many are touched: this is love, so much love! But sometimes it's just a habit of being together and a fear of changing something in your life.
Well, the third kind of love - tender. When a person feels good simply from the fact that he met his eyes with the object of sighing. When it is enough just to know that this person walks the earth, that he is happy, even if he is not aware of your existence. This is the purest manifestation of love, but if it does not have an answer, it can fade after a while. Quietly, almost imperceptibly, leaving behind just a little sadness and a sigh at the memory. And if it turns out to be mutual, then two such people glow like light bulbs. They are so good together that the rest of the world does not care. It could be parental love when a mother loves her child, no matter what the circumstances. This kind of love can also become sacrificial. When, even loving, they let a person go, if only he was happy. You can also sacrifice yourself in a relationship, when you give yourself completely to a person without a trace, which is also an excess and is not good.
(As you can see, there are positive and negative sides everywhere. But now let's talk about the positive ones, we'll return to the negative ones a little later)

All these types of feelings, as a rule, are rare in their pure form. They are combined and can change from one to another, back and generally into a third. Before proceeding with the description of the romantic line, immediately decide what it will be.
You should also answer the following questions:
How will love affect a girl?
How will love affect a guy?
And how will their love affect the main plot?(if you write not just a romance novel and combine genres)
Having decided on this, it will become more or less clear to you what their relationship should become.

In general, advice for any work: always, when starting a work, have at least a general idea of ​​\u200b\u200bwhat the end will be.

HOW A WOMAN SHOWS HIS FEELINGS.
For starters, a woman is an emotional being. Even in the driest indifferent person there is a part that wants to throw out their emotions. It may be in its infancy, it may sleep for the time being, but everyone has it.
Accordingly, when romantic feelings appear in a girl or woman, emotions begin to play in her in all colors.
But then again, the golden rule in the development of any character is it all depends on the character.
Those who are familiar with anime culture know that the creators of it love to divide characters into stereotypes - yandere, tsundere, etc. I, in turn, do not recommend using these templates. Mostly because of this most characteristic word: "template". This, of course, is easier - to take a ready-made character and insert a character based on it, but then your work will not be any different from many similar ones. As a last resort, try to combine these characters.
Here's another rule for you: in nature, nothing exists in its pure form!

But let's look at the characters in a little more detail:
If the heroine is secretive introvert, then she will show her emotions reluctantly or insecurely. Introverts in most cases are afraid to show any feelings. And when you want to show them, cognitive dissonance begins, which can be described by the phrase "and want and prick". And if they are solved, then often this is accompanied by hours of preparation, thinking about the little things, rehearsing invented dialogues. And if, after such a hassle, they still decide to show or talk about their feelings, then, as a rule, they are terribly worried, blush, can stutter and mumble. Rejection is perceived very painfully and most often becomes even more withdrawn into itself. In relationships that have already taken place, such characters rarely demonstrate their care and love, but if they do, they expect a worthy reaction from the object of adoration. After all, by their standards, this is almost a feat. And if there is no reaction or it is weak, they may be offended and consider that they are not loved or appreciated. Describing such a heroine, it is worth devoting enough time to her internal reflections and conflicts. For example, when she wants to do something (not necessarily romantic), but is afraid of the reaction of the people around her, she will have a real civil war inside her. It is not necessary to paint this for three pages, but it is worth mentioning in order to emphasize her image.
Active and energetic heroine extrovert she can also be embarrassed about her falling in love, but she is unlikely to be worried or embarrassed for a long time. He will think, cook in his thoughts and go ahead. They are not afraid to show their feelings. They can easily approach a guy in front of everyone, kiss, hug, etc. They may pretend that they are easy on life, but you should not think that this is really the case. Deep down, any girl will bother about relationships. It's just that someone splashes it out, and someone accumulates it in themselves. If you want to create a cheerful heroine, then, while showing the reader her feelings, try to pay attention not only to how she approached, said something, kissed, treated, etc., but also to what is happening inside her. For example, a guy praised her for something; she can laugh it off, but inside she will be jumping with happiness. If the guy didn’t say anything and generally brushed her off, she again can pretend that everything is in order, but inside she will be very upset.
These are two extremes of character, which should also be combined in different proportions. But the basis is always the same: girls are extremely emotional, but it depends on each of them to what extent they show these emotions. Through inner experiences or through outer actions.
By the way, those girls who try to hide their emotions in themselves are more prone to tantrums that make the guys brain. Just once, as they say, "accumulated".
I also want to tell separately about the girls- ostentatious. These are those who behave one way in public, but completely different with their boyfriend or in private. It can be a girl who is bright and energetic in public, but withdrawn and shy in private. And vice versa: modest in front of strangers and liberated among her own. Such girls also show feelings in different ways. Most often, her real image is the one that appears when she is alone with herself or loved ones, therefore, when describing her feelings, it is better to be guided by this.

All of the above is typical of our age. If you are writing a historical novel, then the behavior of the girls of that time is very different. They are more modest and less inclined to show feelings. In those days, few people had an explosive temper, and even those were forced to hide it, because the rules of decency were in the first place. And education was very important.

HOW A MAN SHOWS HIS FEELINGS.
I will dwell on this point in more detail, since romance is mainly written by young ladies, and it is easy for us to understand ourselves and each other, but it is more difficult with male images.
So the above types of characters and behaviors can be partially applied to men, but not completely. Remember that men are rather stingy in demonstrating feelings. No need to make them emotional hysterics or a woman in trousers.

A bit of psychology:
Many women authors make gross mistakes in describing male images. They, on their feminine side, want a man to express love in the way a woman understands it. Therefore, often there are macho heroes who can suffer because of love, hysteria and, with tears in their eyes, swear love to the grave. That is why men themselves often laugh at male images in women's novels. It's just that some authors endow the characters with female types of emotions.
Maybe for some this is a revelation, but we express love in different ways. No wonder they say that men are from Mars, women are from Venus. And it’s not just that stereotypical phrases about female hysteria and male insensitivity appear.
Here's an example on your fingers: a woman expresses love in circles, and a man in triangles. And all the problems between couples are that a woman, accustomed to circles, is waiting for them from her man, not noticing his triangles. And, not finding them, she thinks that she is not loved. And vice versa. And then everyone wonders why they broke up, because they loved each other so much.
I do not argue that emotional men exist, but, as a rule, for the sake of emotionality, they sacrifice their masculinity. Returning to the example I gave above: have you ever seen a strong, self-confident man who, shedding tears, confessed his love? For me, a very ridiculous spectacle, even funny. Involuntarily respect for such falls. There is even something like disgust. It is difficult to experience such romantic feelings, only pity. (In general, if a man talks too much, especially about feelings, you should doubt either his masculinity or honesty).
And here the question arises: but the woman herself described such a hero, which means that she wants this, why doesn’t she like it? Here is a demonstration of female logic. The bottom line is that sometimes it is difficult for a woman to express what she wants. She wants love and a romantic hero, but she tries to show it in her own way. However, the inner essence (you can call it instinct) rejects such a man, because he lacks masculinity and is similar in quality to a woman.
It seems that everything is so simple: women are women, men are men, but for some reason, many authors step on this rake.
Therefore, advice: if you want to disappoint a male character and show him in an unfavorable light, give him a tantrum. He immediately loses audience sympathy.

But back to what men really are.
And they, unlike women, try to show their feelings and affection more with deeds and deeds, and not with words.
He shows his love by showing concern for his girlfriend.
Even banalities like fixing an outlet, hammering a nail (here the important thing is that he does this of his own free will, and not after being stuck in from the outside) can be regarded as a sign that the woman for whom he does this is dear to him.
Accordingly, in the story, in order to show the feelings of the hero, moments should be inserted when he takes care of the heroine. The moments will look especially good when he helps her exactly where she needs it and exactly when she needs it, but is NOT NECESSARY! That is, saving a life or helping out in trouble is also good, but banal decency, a desire to do good, etc., can work here. And if he does something that, in principle, it is not necessary to do, this indicates a sincere desire.
For example, a light bulb burned out on the veranda of the heroine's house. There is no special need for light, and the heroine seems to remember about it, but "hands do not reach." And then a hero appears and this: "Oops, the light is off". Went, changed and sits drinking tea.
Then you can demonstrate the attitude of the girl to this man. If she doesn't feel anything for him, she may dryly say "thank you" or even be indignant that he is getting into her affairs. A man will see that he did not like his care (triangle), and he may take this as a refusal.
If the heroine accepts his care and likes him, she will most likely smile and sincerely thank him. A man, seeing gratitude, will be very happy and inspired, perhaps embarrassed. And he will take it as a favor to his person, and he will want to do something else for her.
Thus, mutual sympathy is demonstrated. If you want to describe love, then it’s better to start showing it in ordinary, at first glance, worthless little things, like screwing in a light bulb, but through “Oh, he’s handsome, I want him, I’m losing my panties,” only sexual tension and passion are shown. I do not argue, she is also needed, but I think everyone is already aware that sex does not always equal love. For some reason, most authors, especially Western ones, forget about it.
It is also worth remembering the nature of the character. If a guy is open, energetic and self-confident, he can easily take and screw in this light bulb even with heroin, ignoring her sluggish protests. If he is modest and shy, then, most likely, he will wait until the heroine is out of sight, quickly change this light bulb and pretend that he has nothing to do with it. And, nevertheless, everyone will carefully monitor how the heroine will react to his act.
It is important for men to know how a woman treats his signs of attention. And they get upset if she doesn't notice them or reacts negatively.
Separately, I must say that there are those men who will specifically focus on the light bulb and almost brag about their act. That is, they will ask for praise, which suggests that they really lack attention. Here the heroine should be careful. This can be both a concern and a desire to satisfy one's own HSF. Such behavior should be shown if you want to describe the hero as, for example, a womanizer who just wants to wrap up the girl as soon as possible, that is, swear and quit. In other words, it is important for him to make an impression as soon as possible, and therefore he will focus on his actions. "Look how cool I am!".

However, I am not suggesting that men do not speak words of love at all. They say. But this, as a rule, happens when he is one hundred percent sure of his feelings, when he trusts his girlfriend and is not afraid to look weak in front of her (and a declaration of love for a man is tantamount to a confession of his weakness). That is, he can demonstrate his feelings with might and main, through tenderness, care, affection, but avoid pronouncing this word with a letter "l".
Also, if a man starts talking about love, there is a chance that he is lying. That is, he says to seduce, to keep him close to him, or, oddly enough, so that the girl leaves him behind at least for a while and lets him go about her business. Simply put, this phrase can be translated as "Yes, I love you, leave me alone!". Therefore, another way to show a character in an unfavorable light is to demonstrate his hypocrisy with a fake declaration of love. It is, most often, hastily, out of place, and is aimed at causing indulgence or pity. "Well, I love you!".

Men love to give girls something. Therefore, its location can be shown through a small gift. You don't need anything fancy (like a car, gold and diamonds). Wealth and generosity can be shown in another way. A character who gives a keychain or a can of coffee at the right time, or shows up with a ladle that is decorated with a bow, will look funny and cute in a good way. And at the same time, it will be clear that the gift is from the heart, and not just because it is customary.
And to be honest, with expensive cars and diamonds in literature, you will not surprise anyone now. But at least someone gave a ladle?

Do not forget about the inner world of a man. They tend to experience and analyze all situations no less than a woman. Another thing is that it does not last for weeks. Men make decisions faster. Therefore, one can describe how he looks thoughtfully out the window, remembering the heroine. And God forbid you in these memories (and in any impressions of the hero about the heroine) describe her clothes, jewelry or hairstyle. Take my word for it, men for the most part do not pay much attention to this. They only care about the whole image. Looks attractive or not. And if he remembers what she was wearing, then he SPECIFICALLY remembered it or he has a good visual memory.
Thinking about the heroine, a man is likely to remember how she reacted to him. Did she smile? Did you frown? How did she turn? What did she say to him?
Plus, it would be nice to determine who your man is in perception. If visual, he will remember smiles and glances, auditory will more often think about her voice and remember her words, while kinesthetic may well remember her hair, skin (things that you want to touch) and even the smell of her perfume.

But, despite all the characteristics that I wrote here, there are exceptions everywhere. I want to tell you about lighter men. This is an energetic, usually constantly positive and most often very outspoken person. He is so self-confident that he does not care about the opinions of others. In our time, meeting such people is a rarity, but I think it’s still worth writing about them.
These men are not afraid of their feelings and emotions. They can directly tell the girl that he likes her, not hide their intentions. As I wrote above, just take and screw in a light bulb without worrying about what the heroine will think. They are able to deeply and reverently love their chosen one and at the same time not be killed and discouraged if they are refused. I had a day or two of fun - and again into battle, to new achievements. They do not tend to think much, but tend to act a lot and often. By the way, it is quite common for such a person to give a ladle instead of flowers, to take the sad heroine out for a night walk and fool around to cheer her up.
Not all women take such a man seriously, believing that his childhood is stuck somewhere. To draw the attention of the heroine to himself, he should do something really serious and spectacular that will impress her. I'm not talking about useless but romantic nonsense like a million scarlet roses, a declaration of love with the help of a crowd of people, some kind of flash mob, etc. This will only confirm his foolishness. Best of all, a serious act, completely uncharacteristic of him, so that the heroine can look at him with different eyes.
By the way, this can be done with any character. To give the heroine the opportunity to look at him "with different eyes" (or to get him out of the friend zone), he must do something completely out of character for him. Here is a quiet and modest flash mob with a hundred people.

In general, I summarize: Every man is a knight and a conqueror at heart. They like to take care of girls, please them and take care of them. Perform feats for the glory of your chosen one. And he will make them more often if the chosen one is "nourish" this is his aspiration. That is, as with a light bulb: sincerely thank and make it clear that they like it.

HOW TO SHOW FEELINGS WITH THE EYES OF ANOTHER CHARACTER.
Do not forget about this important point. Because the characters don't live on a deserted island. And even if so, there is always at least some kind of reaction to them from the outside. Even just a reader is already a third party.
In the work it is very important to show the attitude of the characters with a sober look. The characters, of course, are in love and wear rose-colored glasses. In fact, they are biased and even inadequate in places. But with the help of other characters, you can show reality or third-party opinion.
For example, through the eyes of a grumpy neighbor grandmother who sees everything in a negative way. "Walk around here, you know... a boyfriend, you know, got yourself into it. Skinny, shaggy... What did the girl find in this pimple?".
Or vice versa: the heroine does not see the feelings of the hero at close range, considering him a friend, but her friends see it well.
Or the characters are in love and do not have souls in each other. Their idyll can be shown through friends who roll their eyes at this vanilla sugar.
Through the description of a couple through the eyes of another person, you can reveal them from a new perspective. And you can reveal the character who is watching them. For example, it is unpleasant for single people to look at couples, especially if they themselves recently broke up with someone. And lovers, on the contrary, are easier to see their own kind.
It is also a view from the side, which can be used as an intrigue. That is, the heroine is in love with a beautiful and caring person, she is in seventh heaven with happiness. Everything is good with them and will be even better, and then the narrative switches to a passer-by and we see that it is all fake. A man, for example, hugging a girl, grimaces from the fact that all this is a burden to him. So the reader can be conveyed that not everything is so smooth for this couple.
Or vice versa. The two swear, and it almost comes to a fight, each disperses to his own corner. And another character sees what they do not show each other: how the heroine furtively wipes away a tear, and the guy looks around and looks sadly after the leaving girl. Moreover, this can be described in the words of the author, the author can also be considered a third party.
There are a lot of tricks, and their use will complete the picture.

HOW A WOMAN BEARS UNFAIR LOVE.
Again, I have already covered some of this. The woman is emotional. She will cry, she may become hysterical. In a fit of feeling, he can throw things away or cut the guy’s clothes if this is a break in relations. It can also unsuccessfully cut your hair, think up and believe in thousands of fables and generally do stupid things. This is because, succumbing to strong emotions, she ceases to control herself.
She can also fall into a prolonged depression, complain to her friends. Some, especially those who feel they are the victim, may go for revenge. Some especially vicious personalities can take revenge all their lives.
Those girls who had their hearts broken at the very beginning, for example, did not reciprocate, generally react not so violently, but also depression-tears, melodramatic films and overeating with sweets. Most women tend to eat their failures.
Those who have been rejected will most likely try to avoid the one they had feelings for and will take any news about that person very deeply. Both good and bad. Those who broke up, too, can either try to forget, or, conversely, follow and extort any trifle. Everything here, as always, depends on the nature of the character.
If you need to show the heroine's suffering, describe her typical day. How she doesn't give a damn about her appearance, describe apathy and indifference towards the things that were important to her. Everything makes no sense to her. Focus on a couple of little things, but don't get too carried away. You can describe the moment when her eyes suddenly noticed something related to a loved one, how bad she felt, etc. You can add friends who try to console her, or mom. This is also good. Mom can be a friend too.
These same moments can be used to build relationships with other people. As a rule, a girl is very vulnerable at such moments, and if the friend with whom she was in a quarrel tries to support her, then most likely they will reconcile.

Often, after such experiences, the heroine's self-esteem may fall. But maybe vice versa, she will feel free and decide to become better, as they say, "to prove to everyone..."

HOW A MAN HOLDS UNFAIR LOVE.
Yet despite everything that I wrote here, men are no less vulnerable than women. But they react more aggressively to their failures. That is, if a girl can cut a guy's clothes, throw away or ruin his things, then a guy in a fit of rage can destroy everything. And it doesn't matter where his things are, and where the girl's things are.
But this is a violent display.
Basically, men live a lot in themselves. They try to analyze situations more than once, to understand where the mistake was. Or they can follow and take revenge, they can ignore or try to avoid meeting the girl.
But severe depression is less common. And if they happen, then they are many times deeper than in girls, but shorter.
Extroverts are more likely to go somewhere to have fun "out of spite". They will do their best to prove to everyone around and to themselves that they do not care about everything.
Introverts, on the other hand, will experience loneliness and load themselves from the inside. It is more difficult for them to get out of this state, so here, more than anywhere else, friends are needed to help.
In general, men rarely suffer for a long time because of the breakup of a relationship or the fact that they were rejected. At the very least, they would do their best to keep the others from finding out what was going on inside him. Because the experience is the recognition of one's weakness. And men, as you should already understand, do not like to appear weak.

I should also note one important thing about womanizing men. Many authors take the example when a womanizer was refused, and he is like this: "Ah! How dare she?! I'll get her!". I hasten to disappoint you, in life this happens extremely rarely. Such men, no matter how handsome they are, are used to facing rejection and have built up “thick skin”. Having been refused in one place, they are more likely to switch to another girl, because "there is a lot of fish in the pond." And after some time, he will forget to think about the one that refused him.
There are those who have a sporting interest in a certain girl, and they also react calmly to a refusal, as if this is not serious at all. This is a psychological technique "do not react to what you do not like or do not like."

HOW TO DESCRIBE THE TEMPORARY PARTITION AND REUNION OF A LOVING COUPLE.
To begin with, you need to clearly understand what character the characters have. And what kind of relationship do they have? If they are people whose romance moves slowly and gradually, if they are modest and stingy with manifestations of feelings, then they are unlikely to sob, hanging on each other.
But even for such couples, parting can be very touching. Some kind of tender caress and a sad smile, a couple of words like "be careful(-women)"- this is quite enough to show their affection.
And at the same time, such a scene does not fit in with an emotional couple at all. Such, just the opposite, will climb to hug, cry. Until the last, they will stand side by side, looking longingly at the departing train (or the departing plane).
Although anyone can look longingly. This is suitable even for introverts.
And do not forget that behavior can be influenced not only by character, but also by mood. That is, an active girl at first is all so tipsy, optimistic, hugs, kisses. But then, as if awareness comes and a cheerful mood is replaced by sadness. Likewise, a cheerful energetic guy: he can behave as if nothing had happened, joke, and then at the last minute give out some kind of caring and serious phrase.
Again, I want to remind you that mostly girls are emotional. Guys, for the most part, will try to avoid flashy displays of emotion. Therefore, the hero is more likely to comfort the heroine, even if he feels the same way. To do this, he can change the topic of conversation, encourage, joke. Even if it fails. However, guys can show affection too. Kiss, hug a girl.
Meeting through time is not much different from parting, except that joy prevails more than sadness. And so everything is the same. Either short gentle hugs, or impetuous. The situations that are often shown in films are quite rare. For example, when a guy picks up a girl and starts spinning with her. More precisely, this may be, but for a young couple. In a fit of feelings, they can even forget that they are among people.
More calm couples can stand opposite each other and silently look intently into the eyes. Both express joy at the meeting.
The most interesting thing happens when a pair of one energetic extrovert, and the other modest introvert. One will clearly show his feelings and joy, while the other will be terribly shy.

HOW TO DESCRIBE THE NEGATIVE SIDES OF LOVE.
Not the most pleasant thing, negative love, but that also exists. Partially, I have already talked about it in the previous paragraphs, but I think it is worth dwelling here in more detail.
Surely you immediately get the idea that the negative side of love is when a heart is broken, when a person suffers, when he begins to take revenge or kill himself. Yes, this is partly true, but the negative side can also appear in relationships.
First of all, it is, of course, the notorious jealousy.
Many girls like it when a guy is jealous. He seems to show that the girl is dear to him. Conversely, guys like it when a girl is jealous. However, jealousy can reach dangerous extremes.

A moment of psychology:
What is jealousy anyway? Most often, this is a person’s fear that a partner will leave him, often jealousy is accompanied by low self-esteem: "She'll find someone better than me". Self-doubt: "Why did she love me?".
In general, any jealousy is a distrust of a partner. That is, doubt about his fidelity. Disbelief in one's own ability to keep a loved one with you.
Not so attractive anymore, right?
However, there are no 100% self-confident people. Therefore, slight jealousy can be shown, and it can give romance a certain piquancy. Also, with the help of jealousy, you can reveal the complexes of the character or put him in an unfavorable light.

Thus, the story should not describe the hero as a successful, tough macho, self-confident, in front of which the girls fall in piles, and then describe how he is wildly jealous of the heroine. This does not show his love, but shows his low self-esteem, and all his coolness is no longer so impressive. But he doesn't have to be a jerk. He can express his disapproval, move his eyebrows, lay claim to a girl, show off in front of an opponent, but in no way throw tantrums, yell or quarrel with the heroine because of jealousy attacks. Remember! Men should not be hysterical.
And vice versa: a bespectacled guy and a loser will not calmly react to the fact that his girlfriend communicates with others, this one will just eat himself out of jealousy.
But girls, unfortunately, are more likely to be jealous of their boyfriend. Basically, this is the mentality of modernity, according to which a girl must definitely find a man for herself, marry him to herself and, having made a choice, cling to him with all her nails so as not to miss. This stereotype is not subject to all, but the majority. However, the same rules apply to them. A confident girl knows her own worth and will not bother with jealousy, but an insecure girl will constantly call her young man, try to control him, so that God forbid, no "chicken" did not take him away.
Guys, as a rule, either give up, becoming henpecked, or leave annoying young ladies, acquiring a prejudiced opinion about any female.
And after that, people still ask, where do cynics come from among guys? Why do they not want a relationship and prefer girls for one night stands? Because relationships after their own experience or watching friends, they see it that way. And they need such frostbite? No self-respecting man would tolerate such an attitude.
This, by the way, is a note to all authors: if you want to create a cynic hero who has lost respect for women and does not trust them, describe in his past such an example (this may be an example of parents), when a woman is trying with might and main to turn a man, hard control and command him.

Another negative side of love and relationships is manipulation, or, in other words, abuse. In essence, this is when one character mocks another. Moreover, this is most often incomprehensible even to the object of bullying. How so? And it's very simple.
Banal examples. Let's take a guy who disappears for a while, does not call, does not make himself felt. The girl at this time is going through: what happened, suddenly misfortune, suddenly changes, suddenly fell out of love? And then the guy says "Why are you crazy? I'm fine, these are my problems". It seems to calm down, everything seems to be fine, but after a while everything can happen again. And again, nerves, feelings and calming according to the principle: "Why are you hysterical from scratch?". Here there is a devaluation of the feelings of the heroine, and after a while she will get used to being wiped on her feet.
The roles, of course, can change, but the essence is the same.
In this example, the guy does not put the girl in anything, he can assure that he loves, he can even believe in it himself, but this is an unhealthy relationship. His problems become more important, and what she feels there is her concern. And he doesn't care about her problems.
This is a mild example, but often begins with exactly this. And then constant reproaches "Yes, how much can you worry from scratch", constant cultivating feelings of guilt "If you hadn't bothered me, I wouldn't have disappeared", ultimatums "Be good, then I'll stay with you" etc.
A person slowly and surely becomes weak-willed. You can’t say an extra word to him, his own opinion disappears and dependence appears. "How is it, what if he leaves me, but who will need me?".
In fact, similar "grinding" a person is a big problem in our society, and what I have told is only a small part. (If this topic is of interest, search the internet for articles on relationship manipulation and abuse.) And I told this in order to be able to display these techniques in the literature, where necessary.
Such couples, as a rule, in public pretend that everything is fine, but one of them is constantly under pressure or suffers. If you need to show the unfortunate hero in a relationship, then here's a gold mine. And the banal: "He's boring, he doesn't understand me" pity, alas, does not cause. A "He's cheating on me"- already banal banality, albeit relevant.
But the relationship with the manipulator (or abuser) is often very beautiful and romantic at the first stage. Such a person considers himself the best and most beautiful, and many buy into his self-confidence, not noticing how this "self-confident" begins to rise by humiliating the others, and subsequently his soulmate.
(Here’s another small example for you: such people very often don’t give a damn about people in the service sector. They are rude to waiters, talk boorishly to sellers or with servants in a hotel. By adding such scenes, you can reveal such a character very well)
If you understand it well, then such a relationship is similar to the relationship of a master and a slave. One gets everything, the other tries only to please, so long as he doesn’t leave, don’t hit, don’t get bored, leave him alone (for example, during another scandal) ...
The saddest thing is that such relationships are very difficult to break, especially if they are already a year old or more, by this time the self-esteem of the victim is almost at zero and only in his head: "How come... I can't live without him/her". And all because often the "victim" is not even aware of his position and believes that in general everything is fine.

A very fertile ground for creativity and description of the mental suffering of the hero. If you want to describe how your character copes with adversity, you don't have to write about debt, trouble spots, or fighting the mafia. Try to get him out of such a relationship. It will be worse than many gang fights, in terms of mental suffering for sure.
You can also write a very sensual romance against this background, when someone good and kind appears in the life of the hero, helping to cope with difficulties and forcing you to believe in yourself again.

IN CONCLUSION.
HOW TO DESCRIBE FEELINGS THAT DEVELOP GRADUALLY.
This is one of the most important points in this article, although it is the last. And all because very few people know how to describe relationships that develop gradually. Most often, the characters immediately fall in love or begin to like or dislike each other, if the plot is about relationships through hatred. That is, accordingly, they react to each other.
In other words, as soon as the heroes meet, we immediately observe how feelings appear, conscious or not.
With a brief example, I will tell you how you can build a gradual development of relationships.

First meeting.
He: Are you an archaeologist? Here, I brought you a dinosaur skeleton.
She: Yes, thanks for posting here.

All. No: "Oh, he's handsome", "Oh, she's charming." Clear, dry, to the point. No thoughts, no descriptions from the side of the characters. And if they are, then only neutral and impassive.

Second meeting.
He: Here's another skeleton for you.
She: He's kind of weird.
He: So will you take it or not?

You can have a small dialogue, but, again, in neutral tones. Remember: nothing connects them. Avoid any hint of flirting. Some time must pass for the usual acquaintance.
By the third meeting, you can add something more personal.
For example, the guy arrives earlier and finds the heroine asleep from overwork. He might think something about how tired she is, or whether to wake her up. No need to immediately add how pretty she is or what kind of legs she has. No, just thoughts about a person, again, without a hint of flirting, romance or sympathy.
After that, a short conversation on the same topic of work, but you can add thoughts and impressions from this meeting or person.

He: "Something she is unusually quiet today. Previously, she thoroughly examined everything and was indignant at every speck of dust".
She: "And he did well, this time even the receipt is filled out correctly".

And remember. The world does not revolve around their started or not started relationship. All these meetings should be diluted with other everyday or not very things. That is, it is necessary to saturate their life with something else. A roommate, a cat, a bakery, a weirdo friend, parents, a 3:00 a.m. fire truck, a lottery win, a broken TV, whatever. Heroes must live. The relationship of the characters at first should not look like something special against the general background. In terms of importance, they should be on a par with buying cat food and an alarm clock going off in the middle of the night.
And after a few meetings, you can add characters to each other's thoughts, but carefully.

He (looking at some prehistoric skeleton): "Hmm... she would love those bones.".
She: "Today delivery again, I wonder what he will bring today. Maybe Triceratops? ..".

Again, in the first thoughts, you should not show the personal relationship of one character to another. No features. It is best to connect them at the beginning with what unites the heroes.
And after that, you can add impressions and ratings.

"She's pretty today."
"Oh, he shaved".

Here the heroes begin to look closely.
You can add elements of flirting or jokes to the dialogues. That is, to demonstrate the desire of the character to please another.
But do not forget that all these stages may not pass evenly. For example, the hero is already ripe for flirting, and the heroine is still covered in her bones and skeletons and does not notice his attempt to impress. Or vice versa: she dresses up to meet him, he is like this: "Here we need your signature" and then turns around and walks away like nothing happened.
After the first step has been taken, the second must, oddly enough, take place. And more, and more. More daring attempts to flirt, more intimate communication. You can push the characters not at work. Or create a moment when one of them opens up.
It is best to create a situation where the characters recognize each other, but not intentionally, but somehow even by accident. Describe how mutual sympathy arises, but do not demonstrate it. After that, you can add reflections about whether there is even a chance? Do you like him/her or not? Will something good come out of this or not? Everyone has moments of doubt.
And don't forget about the personal lives of the characters. Each of them, in addition to work and meetings, has a lot more: family, friends, interests, etc. Or, if it's fantasy, it could be battles, fights, chases. Fantasy: shootouts, spaceflight. Detective: investigation, evidence, suspects. By diluting it all, you create the impression of real life.
After that, the characters can add some kind of difficulty. In my example: the heroine was transferred to another museum, the hero was put on a different route, and so on.
How the characters overcome difficulties, how they communicate all the time - this is important and forms the basis of a romantic relationship. Also, do not forget about what I wrote above: about the characters and specifics of the behavior of men and women. The example that is given here is not a standard or a template, it is an option. The hero can be the same lighter boy who invariably cheers up the bored heroine at work. Each meeting is accompanied by laughter, and the heroine gradually falls in love with him, worries about how such a person will like her, a gray mouse, and he suddenly, for no reason at all, calls her on a date.
Or vice versa. She is a self-confident scientist with degrees and logical thinking, and he is a simple hard worker trying to somehow show his best side.
The most important technique is at first not to attach importance to their communication. Avoid any form of flirting. When constructing descriptions and dialogues, try to imagine characters of a different gender or age in order to immediately dismiss the sexual overtones. And flirting introduce gradually and accurately. Then you can describe the unobtrusive impression of the next meeting. He was in a good mood, suddenly the world became more beautiful, etc. But don't give reasons. It sort of happened by itself.
But the reader will understand that these are the first signs of falling in love. In general, do not make fools out of readers by explaining everything and everything to them. Believe me, readers see and understand a lot. And they appreciate works where there is something to think about. I don't mean cut off the end - and think what you will. A slight understatement in places gives the charm of the story and the effect of involvement.
You can, by the way, go from the opposite. For example, a hero, such a macho, immediately spotted a pretty girl and unequivocally invited her to spend a fun night. Received a refusal and scored on this case. The heroine began to shun him, but for certain reasons they continued to stop. Work, mutual friends or study in the same group. The hero, having accepted the refusal, stopped evaluating the heroine as a sexual object, having happened to others, and the heroine, on the contrary, began to look closely at him. Or she was offended and tries to ignore him, and he continued to watch her, realizing that he was starting to like her more and more. (And again I remind you: you need to dilute all this with everyday life, which ABSOLUTELY does not concern another of the main characters).
But remember, the first conversations after a fiasco should also be neutral at first. And flirting attempts should immediately be stopped by one of them.
Sympathy should not appear at the second meeting, but gradually. At first "here's the bastard", Then "Oh, this is that bastard", "and nothing is such a pest", "Yes, in general, she is not harmful", "yes she's cute", "Oh, here's our beauty", "Oh, and finally, here she is", "finally came, I miss you"...
The main rule: gradualness and switching of attention.
That is, the more intermediate stages, the better. But don't get too carried away. Everything should be in moderation.

P.S. Love each other and write more sweet and bright stories about true love.

"Love is a description of a feeling"

Many people believe that love begins with a glance. However, not all people can experience love at first sight. Such love is mainly inherent in those people who have a number of characteristic properties.

In particular, the reasons for love at first sight include life experience, the level of intellectual abilities, developed imagination and, to a greater extent, temperament. An instant flash of love can be experienced by people with a rather lively character and excitable temperament. Love at first sight is characteristic of emotionally quick-tempered individuals with a hot nature. Such people give in to passion and enthusiasm very easily, but they also calm down just as quickly. People who are fickle in their character and habits can also experience instant love.

But it is precisely such character traits that do not fully strengthen the feelings that have arisen deeply and thoroughly. Usually, in such people, love does not leave a deep mark on the soul, and the feelings themselves are rather superficial.

Very serious people cannot fall in love at first sight. This is due to the fact that the inner convictions of such people are such that, according to them, it is necessary first of all to get to know the person well, having spent a sufficient amount of time with him. Usually in such people love is the result of a long friendship. Only under the influence of the regularity of events, prudence of character, slowness in actions, friendships can turn into a love feeling.

People with a melancholic temperament are extremely sensitive. They need a lot of self-care, increased attention. However, just one unsuccessful word, gesture or deed is enough for such a person’s love feeling to die out forever.

The development of the feeling of love is described by many philosophers of antiquity. Usually love begins with what can be described as admiration. Under its influence, a dream appears in the mind of a person, and already at the next stage, a person begins to hope for reciprocity. It is in the process of such tremulous expectation that love appears. Its meaning is reflected in the feeling of pleasure from the fact that a person has the opportunity to see the object of his desires, communicate with him, etc.

Love in almost every case is accompanied by a process of idealization. A person in love tends to improve and attribute to the object of love such qualities that he essentially does not possess. It is almost impossible to dissuade a lover in his opinion regarding the object of love. It seems to all lovers that they love truly the best and most beautiful person in the whole world. In fact, the object of love is perceived as a kind of ideal and perfection.

In a state characteristic of a person in love, several main characteristic features can be distinguished.

…. Such a person is always focused in his thoughts on his chosen one.

.... The desire to communicate with the object of love overlaps all other types of desires.

.... Often people in love have a violation of appetite and sleep.

It is not uncommon for people in a state of love to become very distracted as a result of their daydreaming. The heartbeat of such people increases many times when communicating with the chosen one or thinking about him. Also, a person in love inevitably begins to strive for self-improvement. Almost always, people in love are characterized by an upbeat excited mood, which can be compared with a strong sexual attraction. Fair is the saying that love can blind a person.

Many people under the influence of love literally become stupid.

This happens because there is no place in the mind for other things than feelings. This is accompanied by a restructuring of all human functions, starting with the hormonal level and ending with the mental processes of brain activity. Under the influence of feelings, a person's sensations, his memory, attention, and thinking change. Almost always, this violates objectivity in the perception of the surrounding reality. Often this is due to the fact that people who love us prefer to idealize our essence. The disadvantages are completely overlooked. Only when the feeling of love passes, rose-colored glasses gradually evaporate from the eyes. To see all the true qualities of a person is possible only with a sane look. Usually, the traits and qualities of a person we loved in the past, after passing through this feeling, become not so attractive.

Falling in love is somewhat different from the real feeling of love. Love usually does not want to be content with communication alone, but requires complete intercourse of the bodies and souls of partners.

P.S.The beloved often blinds the lover.

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It is the most influential, powerful emotion that any of us has encountered or experienced during our lives. These emotions encompass and affect all layers of our actions, thoughts, inspirations and aspirations. The elements of love intertwine and depend on each other, and, in most cases, are carried out on reciprocity.

Here is a chain of 10 points that make up true and holistic love:

Target- This can be considered the most difficult element of love. You give another person the right to occupy your life, to hold your emotions in your hands. You do not question your intention, you are firmly convinced that this will not harm you, and even vice versa.

Honesty- There are not true relationships in love that occurs without honesty. While some truths may be painful to expose and yet you show a willingness to put truth above self-preservation, this is a testament to love.
Tolerance- We are all predisposed to the peculiarities and quirks inherent in our personality. Often, however, such features can go across to your chosen ones. Tolerance allows these differences in actions or thoughts to be ironed out and accepts them in a different composition, as part of who they are, and not as an insult to who they are.

Forgiveness It is impossible to accept another person so intimately without getting hurt at some point or in some way. Forgiveness is the power and strength of "sacrifice", which turns out to indicate to us that this connection is more important than the one that was made.

Kindness as simple as it may seem, however, it is the food that helps relationships grow. Kindness recognizes a unique understanding of another person. This indicates gratitude and sensitivity in a relationship.

Security, although often difficult to develop and maintain in a relationship, security is closely related to trust. When you are secure in a relationship, the chances of envy and jealousy are less likely. Security disproves the notion that a partner can have something or someone else.

Understanding/Kindness - It's important to achieve understanding of your partner's motivations and values. True understanding and compassion recognizes that both sides, both the strengths and weaknesses of the other, are equally part of one common whole.

Commitment, while some may see it as a form of personal sacrifice, is actually quite the opposite. To be dedicated to the needs, needs and aspirations of your partner, you need to be truly noble and selfless.

Respect, it is important to avoid anything that will interfere personal growth partner, and then the success of your relationship. This is achieved in one way - by showing respect for the partner and the relationship, at all times, at all stages ...
This turns out to be possible. Perhaps it is worth thinking a little about these criteria ... Love and be loved, my dears, and let the Arithmetic of Love become as clear to you as the multiplication table!